I think facelifts are like gray hair. They are not for everyone. Honestly, I thought I would be the last person on earth to ever have one. It is highly personal. I am not advocating facelifts, I am simply sharing my personal experience and some helpful tips that I learned through the process. Let’s talk about Helpful Tips to Achieve the Best Results from your Facelift. Spoiler alert there are some not so pretty pictures coming up.
Skin-only facelifts that were popular back in the day only tightened the skin while ignoring the deeper layers of the face. This was an older approach that resulted in unnatural results which many of us attribute to facelifts in general. My surgeon, Dr. Sunde ” removes excess skin or fat deposits, tightening the underlying muscles. and repositioning the skin around the face and neck. As stated in my last post Why are we so Secretive about Having Work Done, I asked my dermatologist and my esthetician who they would recommend. I then researched him on my own. I am now six weeks post-surgery, have returned to all of my normal activities, and am very happy with the results.
My Procedure
Rhytidectomy, Chin Implant (I had to be talked into this), and fat transfer & Fat Grafting to the nasolabial folds. Dr. Sunde advised that he thought I should have a chin implant (at our first meeting). I did not think it was necessary, He said he would do whatever I wished but did not think I would be happy with the results if I opted out. Up until the very end I was opposed until I pulled out old pictures of myself and realized that I had in fact had a chin but it had disappeared with age (yikes). I thought to myself he is the expert go with it. Right before surgery, he advised that he thought the fat transfer would be a good idea. They removed a bit of fat from my abdominal area (plenty to spare there) and injected it in the nasolabial area (elevenses). There was absolutely no pain involved with that procedure either in my abdomen or on my face. There are still two tiny specs where he made the incision but they have faded to practically nothing. I am sure they will be gone shortly.
How to Get the Best Results From Your Facelift
PREOP TIPS
Listen to Your Surgeon (you chose him for a reason)
Arrange for someone to stay with you for the first couple of days.
Prepare some healthy soups, smoothies, etc. prior to Surgery. The first couple of days you will be very swollen and it’s difficult to swallow normal foods. ( my amazing daughter in law had meals prepared for the entire week)
Purchase Extra Strength Tylenol Liquid. (I made the mistake of not thinking of this) Right after surgery, I had no trouble swallowing pills but that changed quickly. By late the first night, I felt like I had a ligature around my neck.
Ask your anesthesiologist for the nausea patch (I can’t imagine anything worse than vomiting with a facelift) I did this with both hip replacements and had no issues at all.
Purchase Swiss Eye Therapy Masks (if your doctor does not provide them, mine did). I really think this helped to keep the bruising to a minimum.
POST OP TIPS
Use the Swiss Eye Therapy Masks (I am a believer)
Follow Your Surgeon’s Instructions to the letter
Take your pain medications as needed and as instructed
Do not overdo it. Take it easy for a few days.
SURGERY & POST SURGERY MY EXPERIENCE
Day 1. FYI Dr. Sunde commented “You had a lot of skin” You know what that means, I looked really bad! After surgery, some may feel unsteady and sleepy. (I personally did not experience this). You should have set up support from a family member or friend for the first two days.
6 hr surgery- home by 6:00 p.m felt very alert after I woke up and didn’t feel drowsy or unstable in the slightest but that was my experience with both my hip replacements. I am guessing this is due to having a good anesthesiologist. I was sent home with drains that had to be emptied and the fluid measured. My nice husband took care of this. Dr. Sunde came to my home to check on me at about 10 p.m (I told you he was good).
The first night, I felt pretty good until the swelling really set in. I literally felt like someone had a ligature around my neck. My head hurt, areas behind ears where I had stitches hurt, pretty much everything hurt. I picked up the “heavy-duty drugs” from the pharmacy before the surgery. I did not take any with either of my hip replacements, so I was hoping I could get by with Extra strength Tylenol. Luckily I was able to. However, do take whatever you need to keep the pain under control. Scary photo coming at you. Steve took this photo of me. Photography is not his jam so it looks even worse than it should but I did look like a kewpie doll from a HORROR movie. Note the swiss eye therapy masks. I really think they helped with the swelling around the eye area. I had very little. Remember you cannot put ice on your skin as it can harm your skin.
Day 2. “You will have a follow-up visit at this time. Your surgeon will remove or change your surgical dressings and evaluate your incisions and swelling. If everything looks good and normal, your surgeon will re-dress the area, review postoperative care once again and send you on your way”. Dr. Sunde removed drains (thank god) checked everything and sent me home. He advised me to basically just lay around today with my head elevated. This was the worst day for me. Neck very swollen and tight. I could not swallow the extra strength Tylenol. All I could tolerate were liquids. If I had gotten extra strength Tylenol liquid I would have been much better off. Since I was unable to swallow much no pain med all night. In the morning Steve picked up extra-strength Tylenol. I took it once and by that time swelling was improving and I could actually swallow the pills again.
Day 3. Dr. Sunde did allow me to move around some, but no lifting. Shower today yippee!! Bruising and swelling supposedly are at their worst around days 3 and 4. Continue to take your medication if you experience discomfort. My bruising is pretty minimal. My first full night of normal sleep. Took one extra-strength Tylenol at 3 am for minor discomfort. That was the last Tylenol I needed. On my way to visit Dr. Sunde in this pic. As you can see I am quite swollen but the bruising hasn’t really shown up yet.
Days 4-6. By this time, most people no longer need prescription pain medication. I quit taking the Tylenol today. Definitely getting much more comfortable. This picture was taken on January 1. You can see the red marks and yellowish/green areas that are popping up.
This was my first outing. We drove down to Big Sur on Day 5. It was great to get out of the house. I am feeling nothing but stiffness and tightness at this point. As you can see my neck is still quite swollen. Don’t worry I wore a big hat. We didn’t go in anywhere. I just popped out of the car to take a few pictures. Keep in mind people have no makeup here. I am trying to keep it real.
Week 2
During this week you’ll likely still have some swelling and bruising around the affected areas. ‘Swelling and bruising can also cause some people to experience numbness, tingling, and tightness. These are all common occurrences after a facelift and should not cause concern. At the end of the second-week post-surgery, many people are feeling like themselves and ready to return to work and begin doing light activities like walking.’
This picture was taken on Day 8. Some of the bruising is starting to subside and perhaps a bit less swelling.
Day 10 no makeup but I did put on a little lip gloss. You can see most of the bruising is gone. On the way to see Dr. Sunde.
Day 13 first day out. Dr. Sunde gave me permission to wear makeup. Ahh what a difference a little makeup makes. Note the swelling and tightness in the neck area.
Week 3
I did my live with Sandra Sallin 24 days post-op. My mouth was still a little bit tight but not so easily noticed. My face is still slightly swollen as well.
Four Weeks
By the end of the first month, you should be back to doing many normal activities depending on your doctor. “It can take up to one year for very minor swelling, bruising, tightness and numbness to reside, but those typically are only noticeable to you”. Dr. Sunde is very conservative when it comes to activity. He is careful to gradually increase the amount of activity and does not want you to do any heavy lifting or strenuous activity until six weeks.
Six weeks
I have no pain at all, just minor swelling in my neck area. I still have some numbness along the sides of my face and the upper neck area but that is improving all the time. I am able to resume any and all activities that I did pre-surgery and I feel great. I have been told that I am a quick healer so please take that into consideration. Everyone is different. Maybe some of you can share your experiences in the comment section. My neck is still tight and swollen but not the least bit painful. My face still a tiny bit puffy. That’s why I chose this pic you can tell my neck is still fuller than usual.
One of the questions/statements that I found quite interesting was the fact that many of you said you spoke to surgeons that would not operate on anyone over 55. I asked Dr. Sunde about this. He said it is all about the health of the person involved and doesn’t consider age to be an issue. I had to have bloodwork and an EKG before the surgery.
ASPS What Facelift is Right for You
Everything You Need to Know Before Getting a Facelift-ASPS
Eight Ways to Speed up Your Recovery
Seven Questions to Ask Before Getting a Facelift-the Cleveland Clinic
Thank you so much for reading How to Get the Best Results from Your Facelift. If you didn’t read my post on Why Are we so Secretive About Getting Work Done, you can read that post here.I am so glad we have had this discussion and that so many of you have shared your experiences. Talking about it should not be taboo. I considered not talking about it but it felt disingenuous. This is a blog about aging and being proud of it. If we decide to have a little work it doesn’t mean we aren’t on the pro-aging team. We are strong women, enjoying what should be the best years of our life. We no longer have to feel silenced or shamed if we do decide to have cosmetic surgery. That being said many of us are proud to not have to go there. I wish I had taken better care of my skin. I don’t want this to turn into a pro plastic surgery forum or gray hair for that matter. I just wanted to be open about it rather than silent. I am just so appreciative of the community of women here on the blog and humbled by your knowledge, guts, and determination to live the best life you can at any age. Okay, I will get off my podium I promise.
First of all, you look great. But I always thought you did. Thank you so much for the in-depth post op instructions. Could you tell me how long your surgery was? How long did you take to find your surgeon? Was it a referral from a friend? I’ve never commented on your blog before. But I love your designs and your new home. You have a great design sense. At first, I wasn’t sure if this procedure was a while ago, but I think it is recent right? We’re you concerned about Covid?
Thank you,
Hi Tara
My surgery was 6 hours. I found my surgeon via recommendations from my dermatologist, my facialist, and a couple of friends. I interviewed him before Covid. I put it off due to Covid, but then went ahead several months later. I had my surgery on February 28. I was somewhat concerned about Covid even though I was tested before the surgery and I am triple vaccinated. If you have any other questions please feel free to email me. FYI my surgeon understood that I did not want to look like a different person so I have been happy with the results. I still have a few spots that are still numb at this point but nothing else. I hope that helps! I hope you will comment more often!
Hi Cindy,
I will chime in with my experience, which is very similar to Marie’s. I did a lot of research and had consultations with 3 plastic surgeons before choosing the one I liked best. I knew I wanted a lower facelift, but was unsure if I needed more. One surgeon suggested only the lower facelift; another suggested that plus either a forehead lift or upper and lower eyelids; the third suggested the lower facelift, upper and lower lids, and to enlarge my top lip. I chose the third surgeon because he is known for the naturalness of his results, but nixed the lip work because I’ve seen too many that don’t look real. The work was done when I was 60, I still looked like me and has lasted so far (I’m 73). I normally have poor pain tolerance, but can honestly say it was pain free. The one downside is that I had to switch to stronger reading glasses afterwards—I understand that’s not uncommon. Congratulations on your beautiful results and thanks for opening up about the subject.
Hi Marilyn
Thank you so much for sharing. I have to say I did have pain for about three days. However, I only took extra strength Tylenol. So glad your experience was good as well. The key is finding a wonderful board-certified surgeon.
Hi Cindy!
You are an angel to post about your personal experience with plastic surgery. I think so many ladies are interested but have limited access to individuals willing to share their personal experience. I was fortunate to have an acquaintance that looked fabulous at the age of 70. I told her several times how great she looked and wanted to know what products she used. She finally took me aside, gave me her plastic surgeons name and told me he was one of the best in town for creating a natural, not over-done look. For those that live in the area, including the East Texas lady, I live in Houston and the doctor she recommended is Dr Philip Yosowitz.
I had been interested but fearful of a facelift until I saw and talked to this acquaintance. Dr Yosowitz did my lower facelift in Feb 2018 when I was 60. He said I did not need my forehead done – he was very honest regarding what he felt I did and did not need. I was scheduled for a Monday morning, stayed in the hospital overnight, and returned to his office Saturday morning (no one else was in the office) to have the bandages removed. Have to say I had no pain, just felt some numbness. Also had no drainage tubes. Very little bruising. Had upper and lower eyelids done a year later by Dr Charles Soparkar. He specializes in eyes only. I had a bit of an issue with dry eyes pre-surgery. My eyes are a little drier since the procedure. It did take 6-9 months for my eyes to really settle although I was completely comfortable being seen in public within a 2-3 weeks. I am now 64 and would/will do it all again if I feel the need!
Hi Marie
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. The reason I chose to share was that I had a hard time finding information for myself. I don’t think we as women should be afraid to talk about it. I know everyone has strong opinions on the subject.
I will only say you look absolutely wonderful! I’ve always loved your style, and I really appreciate you being so open about this subject.
Hi Linda
I know a few people probably did not want to hear it but I felt it was necessary to be transparent and honest. Thanks so much for your support.
I love your honesty and bravery. I had a facelift years ago so I want to encourage you to consider eyelid surgery (blepharoplasty) and maybe a brow lift. Years later, I believe it’s the eye and brow surgery that has lasted the longest and made the most difference. People connect with our eyes, even more when you wear a mask, and our eyes can smile when they are uncovered. It’s a really easy surgery compared to what you have had, but it has major impact upon expressing how alive and bright your life is. Truly you are alive and bright!
Hi Nell
Thank you so much for your support. Such a good point about connecting with one’s eyes. The reason I wear sunglasses in outside photos is that I always look like my eyes are closed! Thank you for sharing your experience. It is so helpful to all who are considering “work”.
Cindy, you look beautful and just like yourself. Refreshed. Like you had a relaxing vacation. This is such a helpful post for the best results.
great that you are so honest about it. Unfortunately, it is still done in secret. Still, I don’t think it was necessary (yet) and you don’t look like Cindy. I can confirm that it is “no problem”.
Hi Mumbai
I never took any close-ups because I did look pretty jowly. I am not advocating plastic surgery. I merely thought I should be transparent should others consider it.I think I still look like me. My granddaughter has yet to notice anything different. I thought she would notice right off the bat.
Cindy,
WOW! You look incredible! I appreciate your transparency and your willingness to share the intimate details of your facelift.
Hi Eugenia
Thank you so much!
The news you have posted has resulted in many, many comments from your interested readers. I already posted my experience of my cosmetic surgery at UCLA when I was 64. Total cost for my surgery then was about 16K which I considered a good investment…like a new car, only a new me. My good friend went to a cosmetic surgeon in another town (Beverly Hills, I think), and hers cost about twice as much – this was in 2004. So it is a good idea to ask around and to explore the available options, just as you would for any other procedure.
Hi Joan
Very good information. Someone asked if I had an arrangement with Dr. Sunde. I did not. He had no idea I would be blogging about it until the end. I do know that everyone charges differently, and some surgeries are more complicated than others. Per Dr. Sunde I “had a lot of skin”.
Cindy, you look as amazing to me as you always did! As Kim said, you look like you! Thank you for sharing your experience and your honesty. I think this post will help many who are considering surgery. I cannot lie, any kind of surgery scares me, I don’t even like to get my eyebrows waxed so I am not sure how I would handle surgery. LOL. Have a wonderful weekend!
Hi Elizabeth
I know how you feel. Before I had my hips replaced I hadn’t been in the hospital since childbirth!
Cindy I love that you detailed every day of this process. It was brave, but it’s good to know and see what happens. The amazing thing about your procedure is that you still look absolutely like yourself. I think that means your surgeon was excellent. I loved the photo of you and Summer. You’re brave and inspiring sharing it all. xo Kim
Hi Kim
Thank you I did have a good surgeon.
Cindy, you look amazing and I’m thankful you’ve opened this dialogue. It’s important for woman to feel comfortable if they do … and if they don’t. And to speak about it openly, without embarrassment or judgment. Just look at the comments! Your surgeon is obviously excellent and that’s the toughest thing … after deciding to move forward with a cosmetic procedure. Finding the right surgeon. And you are a wonderful patient … followed instructions to the letter, didn’t swell or bruise much at all. I’m amazed at how quickly you bounced back and are out and about looking stunning. Thanks for sharing this with us … it’s very brave and I hope we’ll hear more from you on the subject. xo
Hi Juliet
I appreciate your support. I do think it is important to share and be honest. Thank you so much!
I think you look radiant, happy and completely at peace with yourself. Two more things: Look at the picture of you and Summer you posted on Instagram. You have the same chins!!! And…never in a million, zillion years would I do what you have done. I had a C-section the old stem to stern way and I heal with keloids. Yuck! And the second surgery: hammertoes was the absolute worst. I’m in the “if you don’t like the way I look, live until your’re 73 and get back to me on that.” You, my dear, look like your lovely you.
Hi Patricia
I have a hammertoe too and I am avoiding that surgery at all costs. When even the podiatrist tells you don’t do it unless you absolutely have to you know it “ain’t gonna be good”. I love your humor and spunk. This is one and done for me.
Cindy, thank you for sharing! I am open about the treatments I’ve had over the years and applaud you for sharing your story. I am 59 and definitely can see myself getting a facelift in the future. Thank you for all the tips. It definitely makes for a smoother recovery when you follow your surgeon’s postop instructions. Your results are amazing! You look fabulous!
Hi Carla
Yes I agree that is key..follow his instructions and the outcome will be good.
Cindy, thank you so much for sharing this very personal journey! It is sad that people are so secretive about facial plastic surgery. My mother, who is now 100, had a facelift when she was in her early ’70s, and the surgeon did such a fantastic job. She looked like herself, but refreshed. She still looks younger than her age. As I approach 70, I am considering having a facelift, but I live alone and it’s daunting thinking of who I could ask to be a caregiver. I am surprised by one of the comments saying anyone over 55 would not be a good candidate for this surgery!
Hi Stephanie
You really only need someone for the first couple of days at most. Actually the first two nights. After that, you are home-free. I am sure there are many who have been fine without help as well. It isn’t like you can’t get up and down or anything like that. It is more moral support! I know my doctor had some kind of arrangement with a hotel close to his office for that very purpose. I know it is possible. Isn’t it shocking that many won’t do facelifts on people over 55? Who is even thinking about it then? Not me! Good luck on your journey.
Cindy you must be so happy. You look absolutely wonderful. I’m calling this guy and getting it done young.
Karen
You look like you are 30! You don’t need it!!
Thank you for sharing your experience and for your honesty.
Hi Mary
You are welcome.
Cindy,
Thank you for your step-by-step account of your experience with a facelift. You look amazing. It’s something everyone has to decide for themselves, but if I planned on having one, your details would help me think about all of the steps involved.
Karen
Hi Karen
Time to move on to decor!!
Cindy,
Thanks for your candor. You look positively radiant!!
Hi Carol
I just wanted to be up front.
I’m so glad to see you are very honest about the face lift. One of the first pictures I saw on your blog I could tell. Most people want to keep it hush, hush. But for some reason I can always tell. You had a great doctor. I’ve seen celebrities that had work done. And they look like a different person. You look good. And what matters most is that you are happy. And you look great. I’m jealous.
Hi Pam
I took pictures for the blog at less than four weeks. So yes you could tell! I thought I looked totally normal, but looking back I still had a lot of swelling!
Wow! You look terrific! It takes guts to share something so personal; with pictures! Bravo and thank you.
I’m sure you’ve answered lots of questions from the curious.
Hi Nancy
As I said it is not for everyone. In this business a lot of pictures are required. I just kept taking them farther and farther away.
Hi Nancy
I didn’t see any point to trying to hide it. I felt it was better to be up front.
Thank you! You look fabulous.
Hi Maurenn
You are welcome and thank you
Thank you Maureen
Wow! You look MARVELOUS! You have always been beautiful but in your video with Sandra, I noticed how youthful you looked but attributed it to a close up, filters, and camera. My sister had a facelift, a tummy tuck, liposuction , and a chin lift and I stayed with her for 2-3 days. I drove her to her follow up too. I must admit, I am chicken to go through with surgery.
Cindy, so happy for you!
Hi Marcia
I was a chicken too. It really is just a short recovery period. I am sure after taking care of your sister you know the good the bad and the ugly!!
Hi Cindy,
I think you are so brave! Not just for sharing but for actually going through with the procedure. That scares me and believe me if I had the guts I’d be doing this in a heartbeat!
You always looked great to me, and I think it’s wonderful that we have options and can do whatever we want that makes us feel our best.
Can’t wait to see you up close and personal again!
Xo Heidi
Hi Heidi
You look fabulous and do not need it. Sadly all the sun exposure etc. had taken it’s toll on me.
Cindy, you look amazing! The best word I can think of to describe you is refreshed and, of course, adorable.
As I shared with you last week, I had a lower facelift and laser resurfacing four years ago. I looked at the few selfies I took and I had more bruising than you and the C02 laser made my face so red. It took a while for me to feel comfortable going out in public because of the redness. I found my surgeon by asking my dermatologist and my ENT for recommendations and they both recommended the same cosmetic surgeon. I was surprised that they both recommended a cosmetic surgeon versus a plastic surgeon. They both said he was the best in the area. (Dr. Jon Perenack in Baton Rouge, LA) I did not have drains and Dr. Perenack did not visit me that evening but he did call and check in. I went in the next morning and then several more times the following week. I received excellent care from him and his well-staffed office. Also, he and his office well prepared me for what to expect after the surgery, so I knew what I was in for.
I am so grateful that I was financially able to have this surgery. Even though I was 63 when I had the surgery, I didn’t feel that old. And now I feel like my face refkects how I feel.
I was getting a manicure last week and two young women (maybe 30-years old) next to me were openly discussing their botox at the same volume that they were discussing everything else in their lives (kids, husbands, what they were do that weekend). Whereas ladies of our generation only share with our closest confidants. Thank you for sharing your journey.
Hi Geri
Thank you for sharing your experience as well. Hopefully, it might help someone in your area. I still have acne scarring, fine lines around my mouth etc. that I should probably have the heavier duty laser done. I opted out of the more expensive version. I too had redness and peeling after that. It did help but I know that is something I may do at some point. Yes there is a generational divide when it comes to our generation versus our childrens’. That is why I thought it was important to share rather than hide my experience.
Cindy:
Thank you for sharing this journey. Beautifulllllll
Hi Karen
Of course thank you for always being so supportive.
Cindy I think you had a great result and look wonderful. I am 3.5 weeks post op and like you still have some swelling, numbness and a tight feeling. I agree that we should listen to our doctor. Mine said that having my earlobes reduced was “non-negotiable” and now that I look at my pre-op pictures I am amazed at what a difference it made. Goodness, I looked like Lyndon Johnson! My surgeon also came to my house to remove my pressure bandages the morning after. I am told we will continue to evolve as the months go by. So far I am very pleased.
Hi Susan
So glad to hear you are recovering nicely. Thank you for sharing your experience with all of us. It is so helpful.
Good for you. I adore your honesty. We need more of that. I didn’t notice a thing during our LIVE. But you have now cured me from wanting a neck lift. You look great. But then again, I thought you looked great before your surgery. Shows you what I know. Glad you’re on the upside!!!
Hi Sandra
You are such a kick! You look positively amazing and are an example to us all. I have always said I want to be Sandra when I grow up!
When I saw the picture of you next to Sandra Sallin, I remember noticing how young you looked. Never entered my mind that you might have had surgery, which is an indication that your doctor did a great job and enhanced your natural beauty. I would love to have some work done within the next few years. Thank you for being so frank and open with your experience.
Hi Ann
Thank you and you are so welcome. I was kind of shocked about how little information there was out there. I think we all need to be more comfortable being open about it.
Oh just WOW! You look so wonderful – rested, refreshed and still “Like Yourself” except perhaps 15 to 20 years ago. You must be beyond thrilled.
It takes some courage to do it but I know you are glad you went ahead. Now off to your adventure looking like a million bucks!
Hi Amanda
Thank you. My face is far from perfect, but that is not what I was after. FYI my granddaughter has never even noticed. That to me was the biggest compliment.
WOW! You look amazing! In 2 days I am having my malor bags removed from under my eyes and am somewhat nervous, especially about the stitches in my lower lids. Your wonderfully brave article has given me hope and confidence. I’ll still have my “turkey neck”, jowls, lines, and hooded upper eyelids, but hopefully the puffs that make me look tired will be gone. One of the hardest things for me, being a stomach sleeper, is learning to sleep on my back. I’m 71, and like you, my doctor required an EKG as well as a Covid test, even though I’ve had my booster. Thanks so much for helping us be the best that we can be.
Hi Sharon
First of all good luck! A good friend had it done several years ago and she still looks amazing. I wouldn’t worry about a thing!
Hi Cindy, I am fairly new to your blog and I love it. I like your “new” face, but I loved your other one more, It was beautiful and had so much character. I’m sure you will be able to add your amazing character to your new face over time. It was brave of you to share this on your blog.
Hi Jayne
Trust me I still have a lot of character in my new face. I still have the hooded eyes and wrinkles, tons of little lines around my mouth! But thank you for your kind words.
Another thought. It is discouraging that some Drs. won’t consider over 55 patients. But I can see why docs would be conservative since you say your procedure took 6 hours. That is a long time. I am in my mid 60s and hadn’t seen that “tired” look until recently. Now that I’m in my 60s when I really need this and $ is not main consideration, my eligibility is less. Rats!
PS: I googled before & after chin implants and before & after chin implants senior patients. Surgery made a great difference in all. Who knew.
You look Fabulous! Thank you for sharing your experience.
Hi Teresa
Thank you and you are welcome.
I can’t begin to express my appreciation for sharing your experience in such great detail. My biggest hurdle is finding the right Dr. I am fairly new in my area, so in addition to people being tight lipped about the whole thing, I don’t think there’s as many Drs in my area.
Hi Lakegal sorry I don’t know your first name. Hopefully, someone can help you out. I have a lot of readers from Texas. I think my surgeon was shocked that many surgeons would not operate on patients over 50+ too. His comment was it is all about one’s health not their age. I was really not on board with the chin implant either. But he was pretty I just decided he was the expert not me, so I went with it.
Cindy, you look wonderful, and as others here have said, “refreshed”. I appreciate your info and photos. I bet you are glad now that it’s 6 weeks out!
Hi Karen
Yes I am very glad that it is behind me for many reasons. I am very glad I shared. I had no idea so many people were considering the same. I hope by sharing it has helped.
Thank you so much Cindy for all of this information! You look fantastic! I’ve started a savings account for future ‘work’. 🙂
Hi Marcie
I didn’t tell the story but when my mother died she left me some money and I “squirreled” away a bit of it just in case. I ended up going in on a Pontoon boat with my son. When my dad died I did the same thing. I put it in a money-market and left it there until I made up my mind. It is expensive but was worth it in my case.
Cindy, Thank you for sharing this information with all of us. I think it is so helpful and important. As you say, it is not anything to be embarrassed about or something to be hidden away. We can all help each other by sharing this kind of information in the right forum, as you did. All of the information that is in the public forum is so general and it is very difficult to trust any of it -except what you have so generously provided for us. We consider you a friend and appreciate all the information you share with us so honestly. Thank you for being willing to put yourself out there to help others. It’s been great following you through the pandemic as well. Definitely a much needed resource to help me through it! PS ..you look fabulous
Hi Dee
Your kind words mean so much. As I have said many times, this community of women that we have here on the blog amazes me. I learn something every day from you all.
Wishing you’d taken better care of your skin is, for me, the most poignant aspect of this piece. The anti aging products that have flooded the market in the last 20+ years will hopefully improve the overall skin appearance of the future generations. We had no such products and no warnings of the dangers of sun exposure and so, for many, surgical intervention is the reality.
Angela
You are absolutely right. My mission now is to protect what I have. I do not think our children will have the issues we have. They have been educated of the dangers, and they have so many products and treatments available to them to avoid what we have faced. Thank you for pointing that out.
Cindy, you look wonderful! So many women who have facelifts seem to all look alike. You look just like you- just refreshed.
Thank you Valla. That is what I was hoping for. Going in I was afraid either I wouldn’t look like myself, or like not enough!
That was very interesting. Thanks so much for sharing! You look fabulous!
Hi Judie
My pleasure and thank you!
You can stay at the podium for as long as you like to share about this. Your honesty and photo sharing is amazing. Thank you for having the courage to be genuine with your readers who love you whether you’ve had “work” or not. If it helps you feel better about yourself, that’s all that matters. You’re a gutsy gal, pal!
Hi Wren
I am so looking forward to spending more time with you after the move!!
Thank you for the ‘inside information’ Cindy. I remember being in a plastic surgeon’s waiting room. I was there to have a scar removed. There was another woman beside me with her face wrapped and drains and I wished I could ask her some questions, but of course it is considered a private matter, as you said. Thank you for explaining the entire process. The results are wonderful!
Hi Pat
I know isn’t it sad that it has always been so hush hush. Hopefully that will change. I can’t believe that brave lady was sitting in the waiting room. As you can see we looked a bit scary day 1
Hi Cindy,
Wow you sincerely look wonderful, yes you have the rested look, and you look younger. Dr. Sunde did an outstanding job,
I so admire that you stepped up and went for it. With all the research you did and studying Dr. Sunde’s background you still do not know what you will look like until it’s over. You look just beautiful.
You had such a wonderful support team, your daughter in-law is an angel and so is your hubby.
You are amazing, love your courage and strength.
Hi Katherine
You are right about my support team. I am so lucky. Thank you always for your support as well Katherine. I always enjoy hearing from you!!
You look wonderful! I had mine in my 50’s my Dr tried to talk me into a chin implant while I had good results I didn’t listen to him and did not get the implant . I sure wish I had. Glad you were smart enough to listen to your Dr
Hi Cece
I know it just seemed so frivolous to me, until I started looking at old pictures and noticed the disappearing chin.
You looked so different on the video with Sandra but I couldn’t figure out why. Now I know. You look great and thanks for your honesty.
Hi Cindy Lou
My face was still a little tight then. I had committed to doing it so I thought I should go ahead. That also encouraged me to be up front about it!
You look wonderful but always have.
I am wonduring is this a neck lift or full face lift? And you did fat injections. Any laser?
And yes side by side pictures would be interesting.
Thank you for sharing.
Thanks for posting with details. Very interesting. You look great.
Hi Nancy
You are welcome.
Hi Judi
Well my dermatologist called it a lower facelift. What used to be considered a full facelift included the upper face and eye area. Mine did not entail any of that as is obvious by my pictures!! To be honest I have seen it called both. A full facelift these days would include the forehead area and the eyes, which I did not have. I hope that helps!
This is such a helpful post about what it is really like to have “work done.” Thanks!
Hi Elle
You are welcome!
Thank you for all the valuable information.
Reading about your experience, seeing your pics was just like sharing with a good friend. I’m so impressed with your openness and your results. You look great!
Thanks for sharing your life with me. I want to look as good as I feel, too!
Hi Linda
Thank you so much!
Cindy,
This is a beautiful post! I’ve been waiting for the follow-up! Your honesty and willingness to be so open are going to help so many people! The tip on getting liquid Tylenol is so smart! I really think you opened up a great conversation about “Why are we so secretive not having work done?” You look amazing Cindy! You look happy!
xx
Hi Annie
Thank you so much. Hopefully we will all feel more comfortable about talking about it!
Dear Cindy,
You look lovely, at peace and rejuvenated. So glad your journey gave you the results you were hoping for
love, Diney on camano Island
Hi Diney
Always so great to hear from you!!
Cindy, you are beautiful. Thank you for your honest and fresh posts. Always! I love having you as a blog friend 🙂 You certainly had a wonderful doctor do your facelift and that is so important. Healthy and gorgeous results.
Hi Ann
I love all of you ladies! You are such a great sense of support for me as well. I honestly don’t think I would have had the courage to be out with it either if I didn’t have such a supportive community. You are wonderful!
Congratulations Cindy! Thanks for sharing the process and your journey. Awesome results!
Hi Anne
Thank you so much!
You look wonderful! Wishing I had the money to do my turkey neck! Thanks for posting the pictures and giving all the bad with the good!
Hi G
I know…it is expensive. If I hadn’t had a bit of money from my parents estates I probably would have never spent the money myself. I took care of both of them with no help from my sister, so I felt okay about doing it.
You look just like Cindy, fabulous! Thanks for sharing your journey. This post was so informative.
Hi Jill
Thank you so much! Walk by your house all the time!!
Looks great, Cindy. 🙂
Hi Pam
I felt the only way to explain it was to throw those awful pictures out there!!
You look beautiful. Congratulations. So glad I had some”work” done in April. Very similar to yours.
Hi Suzanne
So happy for you!! Thanks for sharing!
Oh my goodness, you look terrific! But I thought that before you had this done. I agree with others, could we see side by side pics, before and after? That would help those of us who are REALLY wanting to do this. My mind is spinning now, trying to decide how to approach my husband about spending 6 – 8 weeks in CA! You have found a top notch surgeon and I need him!
Lisa – I agree. I think Cindy should set up a convalescence room at her new place…. 🤣 😂
Hi Gray!!
Ha! Ha!! I would be the worst nurse!
Hi Lisa
Thank you so much. Lisa you could easily get on a plane in a couple of weeks I believe but I would talk to Dr. Sunde about that. His main concern is the possibility of getting a hematoma.
You look awesome Cindy! Because I live alone, I don’t have anyone to help me or check on me like you did so that’s a consideration, plus I’m 72. Even so, I would love to have what you’ve had done. Question: Somewhere along the way I thought you said you had a jaw and neck lift, but in this post you’re talking about what sounds like more extensive work. Is that what’s involved with a jaw/neck lift, or did you have a full face lift? xoxox, Brenda
Hi Brenda
Honestly if you check out the different plastic surgery sites they all say something different. A “full” facelift involves the forehead and eye area. I had nothing done there. My derm called it a lower facelift. I had stitches along the back of my ear and along the hairline in back. The skin and muscle structure was lifted, not just the skin. I hope that helps.
Thank you so much for sharing your story in such detail. I thought you looked great before but just so much brighter now. Could you post a couple of side by side before and after pics?
Hi Nancy
When I go in next week I will ask my surgeon.
You look beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing! I can’t tell you how much I appreciate this and also your blog!
Hi Erica
Thank you so much. I so appreciate your kind words!
Wow. I knew it was serious surgery, but this just brought it home for me. Not sure I have the guts. But you look SO DAMN GOOD!!!! You will be so glad you did it. Does Dr. Sunde make house calls to VA??? 😬
Thanks for this up close look at exactly what happens…you look amazing.
Hi Gray
It honestly is not that bad. The first two days are not that great but I never took anything besides extra strength tylenol. I should have made that clearer.
Thanks for this post Cindy. You look beautiful!
Hi Kathleen
You are so welcome!
This is so great and full of info. A facelift isn’t for me though – no tengo dinero or courage! But You? You look fabulous and I can see why you are so happy with your results.
Ha!! I love your humor and honesty!!
You look Marvelous!
I’m a retired RN that worked several years with a very dedicated and talented ENT Facial Plastic Surgeon. I have seen really great outcomes from both women and men.
I think it’s wonderful that we can have these procedures that allow people to feel and look their best. Never did I see people that were old, grumpy, couch potatoes as patients seeking out improvement . His patients were always active, engaged and full of life.
So hats off to you! You really do look great! Thanks for sharing.
Hi Sue
Thank you so much for weighing in. Your voice is very important to this conversation.
You look refreshed, isn’t that how we’d all like to look. Our age, but well for our age. Thank you for being so open about your surgery, I wish more would be the same.
Hi Mari
Absolutely. I do not look in the mirror and see a stranger. I still have wrinkles, small scars etc. I wasn’t looking for perfection. I am 67. I just did not want to look haggered and tired because I am not.
Thanks for sharing this. How long will the results last?
Hi Arlene
Good point. From what I have read 10-15 years. That is also dependent on one taking good care of their skin, wearing sunscreen, no smoking or too much alcohol etc. I am on a mission to take the best care that I can now of my skin. Much of it was out of my control (acne) but now I can do better and I plan to.
Gorgeous YOU!
thank you for being open & honest Cindy.
last night I did a birthday video for a friend, I kept wondering who is that?!!? research ahead, and you have paved the way
xo
Debra
Hi Debra
I know exactly what you are saying. My hairdresser is in a new salon and they have these giant mirrors and bright lights. When I went to get my haircut I was horrified.
PS. I did NOTICE the lack of a SMILE on the VIDEO with SANDRA!I kept meaning to tell YOU you need to smile MORE!But I cracked it up to you being nervous since it was your first LIVE!
ALL GOOD and I AM USING THOSE TIPS YOU TWO TALKED ABOUT FOR THE HEAVY LIDS!DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE, so THANK YOU for doing THAT!
Hi Eliz
Sandra knows her eye makeup! It works doesn’t it? It takes some time (I am lazy a lot of the time), but it definitely helps. I haven’t notice you having the droopy lids like me!!
I wish you could do a side-by-side before and after so we can see the tremendous change in your face. You look terrific!
Your look fabulous and refreshed! Not a hint of a “different” face – just you, Cindy, looking like you’ve been on a relaxing and pampered stay at a spa!
Hi Cherie
Thank you so much that is wo what I was hoping to hear!
AS I STATED before I NOTICED a difference right away but because you had mentioned you were doing WEIGHT WATCHERS AGAIN I thought OH she just lost weight……..HE DID A WONDERFUL JOB!
HAPPY YOU ARE PLEASED TOO…….
Thanks Eliz!!
It’s on my to do list and I appreciate your sharing all this information. I’ve had plastic surgery and have not fears. Just excited to do it. It’s for me, not anyone else. You look the same but fresher and matched your personality(youthful and fun).
Hi Bonnie
I love your comment and agree that is all we are hoping for to look as good as we feel.
Thank you for sharing. Would love to see side by side before and after photos. Honestly, you did not look as bad as I thought it would immediately afterwards. Beautiful results. Wish I lived in Cali 🙂
I agree! I’m hoping you will post “Before” and “After” photos from different angles.
Hi Kathryn
I will try and get pics from my surgeon. I could post them on my Sunday favorites sometime.
Hi Lisa
I will work on that. I just kept taking my photos farther and farther away, which was like using a filter!!
Thanks for sharing! I appreciate your candor. 30 years ago I had a rhinoplasty and chin implant. The change was subtle but gave me a huge boost in my self confidence. I ended up leaving a bad marriage! At 65, I’d love to have a little work done around the eyes.
Hi Laura
Thanks for weighing in. It is so important for anyone considering it to hear our words.
You look amazing! Can we address the cost?
Hi Jill
I would recommend you look up the average cost in your particular area as there are vast discrepancies. I wish I could give you more information but it all depends on what you have done and how involved it is.
You look amazing, and I love that you’re being open and honest about your facelift. You are an inspiration!
Thank you so much Cathy.
Wow, great results and lots of good information! I was definitely curious and had been looking forward to this post.
Hi Robin
Enough of this now let’s move on to something more fun!!