I must apologize for my absence from this blog, instagram, pinterest, and mostly to my patient clients of this past year. Last year I shared the loss of “our friend Jim” here . Jim was a wonderful friend to both Steve and I and a mentor and surrogate father to both our children. He passed last April. Steve’s beloved father passed this April, and in July I had my hip replaced. Hip hip hooray it is fabulous thank you! Three weeks after having my hip replaced I went to visit my mom and found her suffering from heart failure and pulmonary fibrosis. I stayed with her for almost three weeks as she was not about to accept any outside care. I finally convinced her she needed round the clock care which began an eight month journey. I would go down every Thursday for 24 hours and relieve the caregivers.
The skills mom was lacking as a parent, she taught me in her struggle with death. The walker, and later the wheelchair were always kept out of view. She got up ( gotten up when she no longer had the strength to use the walker) perched herself in her chair, and drank her coffee every morning (in the end from a straw). She ruled the roost from her chair, taking care of daily activities like she always did until she began making mistakes and misteps. She was a prime example of the strength of the human spirit and the endless bounds that it can stretch.
In the end mom was surrounded by the hospice team, caregivers, neighbors, and friends that embraced her character flaws and cared for her graciously. They dished out a healthy dose of love, kindness, care and sacrifice during her time of need. I will be forever greatful and enriched by their thoughtfulness and friendship.
Here’s to a healthy and happy coming year! There is no where to go but up! Thanks for your patience friends!!