I popped into our local Anthropologie recently and spotted this cute bubbly blonde. She asked if I needed any help. As usual, I was in a big hurry to grab a few things for a photo shoot. I thought to myself oh no she is one of those annoying well-intentioned salespeople who keep bringing me things to try on when I don’t have much time. I explained to her that I was a blogger and time was at a premium. She obviously checked out the blog. The next time I came in (also in a hurry), she quickly grabbed a few things she thought might work and I thought bam! This girl knows what she is doing. Having had a sister that died of alcoholism. I was inspired by her story, I hope you will be too. I hope you will enjoy Ageless Style, Kelly Grace Swift. It’s a long one but a good one.
Ageless Style Kelly Grace Swift
Please tell us a little bit about your personal background, dealing with addiction, and helping others heal
I was a resident of Southern California for 30 years, In 1987 earned an AA Degree in Merchandise Marketing at The Fashion Institute of Design & Merchandising (FIDM). Upon graduation, I had a career in the retail fashion industry. I began at Robinson’s Department Store working in Women’s Designers Sportswear. I had no idea the exceptional level of customer service I was taught in those dressing rooms. I sat on the floor with our in-house alterations learning and listening, and pinning pants and skirts. It was wonderful. Women would call in with an event they needed an outfit for and I would pull things for them. I was styling back then but didn’t have a title. I eventually moved on to managing the men’s department, and eventually another move to the famous Wilkes Bashford’s test store Wilkes Sport in Southern California. We all had our Little Black Books and were in constant contact with our customers. Champagne, hors d’oeuvres, custom alterations-you name it, we did it to make them happy. After a successful career in retail, I wanted to focus on my family and raising my two children. I put retail on the back burner and got involved in creating and executing community awareness programs, televised events, and even a surf team for local schools. Additionally, photography, floral design, interior design, and staging kept me busy. Eventually, I became a self-proclaimed Creative Director.
Behind the scenes, my 30-year relationship with my husband, and my children were deteriorating. I found myself in a highly dysfunctional marriage and both of my children were enduring medical and emotional challenges. No one was healthy, and not one of us was happy. In time my focus shifted from community leader to advocating for my kids. Eventually, my daughter was diagnosed with Lyme Disease, my son with Celiac Disease and Histamine Intolerance. My family began a journey of despair and hopelessness. I was battling a disease called alcoholism. In addition to my failing marriage, medical crisis after medical crisis with my kids was wearing me down physically and emotionally. The worse things got the more I drank. Alcohol was my best friend as I sat up night after night, year after year searching and researching for answers to children’s health issues. I was in a vicious cycle of self-pity, victimization, and physical self-destruction. At age 50, I had persistent daily heart palpitations and weighed almost 200 pounds (I’m 5’ 1”). I had started stuttering, had neuropathy pain in my fingers and toes and began to experience severe short-term memory loss.During my annual physical exam, I was diagnosed with fatty liver disease, pre-diabetic high blood pressure, and an abnormal mammogram. As I was trying to save the lives of my children, and marriage, I was slowly killing myself one sip at a time. The doctor was very clear with me that if I continued down this road I would die. One day I reached my limit. I drove myself to an AA meeting. This was the first day of my new life, and I have not had a drop of alcohol since. In the beginning, it was extremely difficult to work through the cravings. The witching hour for me was dinner time.
To get through, I’d get on my computer and make Pinterest Boards. boards. Looking back I was manifesting what I wanted my life to look like: I had boards for clothes, hair, makeup, things for my home. That was six years ago. Today my children are thriving. I have reversed all of my medical conditions except some of the neuropathy pain. I believe it is my responsibility to share my story, to shed a bright light on this disease, and to help others still suffering know there is another way to live. I need to be transparent if I’m to be authentic. I appreciate my life and have profound gratitude for my journey. I value all the people that carried me through the darkness, walked by my side, holding my hand to celebrate my triumphs. There are constant challenges to overcome, but I am doing it one day at a time. I hope to inspire others with my story. it’s possible to change your life and heal. Early on in my recovery, I felt a calling to help others find sobriety and be a conduit for the big guy up above to save lives. I came to realize in my recovery that there is so much power in what the family does to promote change, I wanted to help families help their loved ones overcome addiction. I received expert training from top professionals in the nation (The Addictions Academy) and became certified to do interventions, recovery coaching, and family coaching. I also worked with clients to make changes in their homes and wardrobes to match the changes they were making in recovery. This was an observation I had learned early on and applied it to my own life. Obviously, I needed to have an environment free of alcohol. I created a wonderful coffee selection and bought great new coffee mugs. I removed the glassware that was used for cocktails. I didn’t want to sacrifice my serenity in my home so I needed to change the environment. New bedding, new pajamas and a regimen of taking good personal care at night with a lovely candle burning. I was creating a space for myself that would not trigger a relapse and I knew that I could also help others do this for themselves. I conceived this service, calling it “Healing Environments”.
Kelly’s Pacific Grove Home
These are important steps that shouldn’t be overlooked but often are in the recovery world. I truly view my past experiences as a tremendous gift, which transformed my life in ways well beyond my wildest dreams or hopes. My healing process was inspirational for a rewarding career path with significance and for a higher purpose in recovery. I try to be extremely transparent. I believe I have a responsibility to do so. I am sympathetic for others who feel they have to be something they aren’t or feel ashamed or less than for having life struggles. As a child, I used to think there were these ‘perfect’ families and that something was wrong with mine. But no, that is life. I believe every single soul comes into this world with lessons to learn. I just figure, if I don’t learn it this time around I’m going to have to do a repeat and that terrifies me enough to try and face my problems and help others. I want people to know you can have problems, diseases, mental illness, no money whatever the case may be, and that you’re OK! You’re normal. Today is a new day to start over and you’re going to go forward with more wisdom than you did yesterday because of your experiences. No matter what I’ve created or the job I’ve been asked to do, there has always been a common thread that has worked for me. My success has been a result of reaching people emotionally and getting them to buy-in on a new idea or vision and then executing it. My ah-ha moment in my own recovery was applying those tactics to myself and making the changes necessary in creating the life I wanted. I knew early on, that I wasn’t satisfied just working at any job that doesn’t affect people emotionally. I’m supposed to try and open their hearts so change can happen. That was a gift I was given and I take it very seriously. What truly brings me joy is helping someone move beyond his or her pain and find hope and joy from the inside out. Once I can get into someone’s heart, miracles can happen and God can continue to work.
Ageless Style Kelly Ann Swift
What brought you to your job as a stylist at Anthropologie?
I learned during the outset of Covid that though I loved what I was doing as a Transformational Coach, I was not good at balancing work and home life. I decided to discontinue my business and blog. It wasn’t an easy decision, but I needed to begin again. I needed to get back to ‘Kelly,’ and the creative pursuits that gave and give me life! I was hired at Anthropologie in the Carmel Plaza. I worked diligently and stayed on the right path of my life. I found myself with a new little black book, and in time Anthropologie took notice of ‘Kelly’ too. Being a personal stylist wasn’t even on my radar nor was it even a position offered at the store. But management saw my background in design and fashion and put their faith in me. My position as a home and wardrobe stylist is just about everything I love all in one position. I get to style people and their homes. Marketing, special events, and of course helping people emotionally through retail therapy! Many guests struggle with comfort in their own bodies following bouts with breast cancer and tummy tucks. There are women going through a divorce, and sending kids off to college. I would see mothers and daughters at odds, those dealing with the death of a loved one, prepping for weddings, and interviewing for jobs. Being of service is what I love. This is my dream job and I didn’t plan it or see it coming. I’m so excited to see what God has in store for me next! On a side note, I still get calls for interventions and I’m grateful and honored to still be able to direct those in despair to the right people. Anyone in recovery knows in order to keep it, you need to give it away. This is what we call a ‘we’ journey. I’m tapping into all of the things that make me tick and give me purpose. I’m so grateful to the supportive women I work with at Anthropologie. They are my cheerleaders and constant supporters.
What do you enjoy most about your job?
The people! I fall in love with people every single day. My kids say I have the ‘gift of gab’. I so enjoy talking to people. There is also something about providing my clients with clothing or furniture that makes me happy. Working as a stylist is much more than helping people select clothing or things for their homes. There isn’t a person that I don’t find interesting. I feel an immense responsibility to help one leave feeling better than when they came in. I work to create an experience and looks that surprise and delight! It’s so rewarding when I can help someone find their style. I try to connect with each person, earn their trust, and observe their personality to create that perfect balance of fit and style. I love beautiful things and I enjoy helping others find things they love. I love creating beautiful environments that make people want to linger. I’ve learned over time that people don’t know what they’re missing until you give it to them. They think they like something until you select something really perfect for them that makes them happy. When I design a room or restyle it. I try to tap into all of their senses. That is what attracted me to Anthropologie. The store is designed to do just that, and it makes guests feel good and want to hang out. It’s so much fun and so rewarding. Clothing and spaces can help transform a person inside and out.
How would you describe your style?
My ‘style’ changes just like my design work. I appreciate so many period styles and love when clothing is influenced by them. It’s fun to change it up! I think I look best in clean lines, not fussy but with a touch of whimsy. Someone once told me, “Just because it’s in style, doesn’t mean it’s meant for you to wear.” That has stuck with me ever since. I’ll see things that I’d love to wear but know they would not look good on me. I’m 5’1” I’ve got to be careful of silhouettes and lines so I don’t look like clothes are wearing me.
Kelly’s Newport Beach Home
Do you have a style muse?
When I need confidence or creativity I look at the character Carrie Bradshaw’s pictures from Sex and The City. She is fearless and timeless all at the same time! Scarlett Johansson for old Hollywood glamour retro-inspired looks and hair and makeup, Charlize Theron’s, pantsuits, statement necklaces, strapless tops, as well as her hair and makeup! When my hair was long I used to try and replicate Bridgit Bardot’s look. I love Audrey Hepburn’s simple elegance. I’ve been compared to Adele, the singer and I’ll take that compliment in a heartbeat. One time I was at a restaurant in a big oversized faux cheetah coat and another guest insisted I was Adele even after explaining I was not. He finally said, well I won’t tell anyone you are here. That’s now officially my Adele coat.
Do you have a favorite accessory?
I could never pick just one! It depends on the outfit. Beautiful clean lines may call for interesting shoes or a simple statement necklace. I’m all about vintage. I collect vintage purses and love vintage-inspired clothes and jewelry. I also enjoy vintage in my home design. In my home, I have a second tree during the holidays that is decorated in 1950’s Christmas Corsages. My favorite sunglasses are vintage frames from a sunglass museum. They’re called The Patsy and I’ve one pair in black and one in tortoiseshell.
What are your favorite color combinations?
I will say that black is just so chic. I love wearing and designing with the different shades and tones of the hue. One trusted combination I love is black, white, and navy. I know, you’re not supposed to put navy and black together, but I think it’s so sophisticated. I find inspiration where ever color can be found. Color combinations come to me constantly: I’ll see a car and its interior then suddenly visualize a beautiful outfit! Or I’ll spy someone on the beach, their shirt backdropped by the sea, I’ll see the perfect color palette for a design. That’s how I designed my house, white on white. I have white walls, repurposed milk glass chandeliers, and fixtures. I added changeable pops and seasonal hues of color with accessories. My entire house has white wood walls and black-lighting. I rewired old lamps and lanterns from eBay. I have white slip-covered furniture and a brown leather sofa, and wood floors! With a house full of kids and animals people always ask how do you keep it clean. “You can bleach the heck out of the slipcovers! And they look brand new.”
Do you have a signature piece that defines your style?
I’m known for my vintage finds in clothes and home design. I love one-of-a-kind pieces that make the outfit and/or space singular. I don’t like cookie-cutter looks. I think what makes me a good stylist is that I can completely get into any look if it’s right for that person! I know it when I see a smile come across their face. Some have done a happy dance when I have hit the nail on the head. I have been blessed with a very broad imagination.
What are your favorite beauty products and why can’t you live without them?
IT Cosmetics, Bye Bye Foundation, I love this foundation, I love the color, it blends easily, and my skin feels moisture-rich without looking oily. Dermalogica PreCleanse. It feels amazing on the skin, it removes make-up very well and leaves your face soft, smooth, and well hydrated. Fur Oil, for barbering personal areas! It prevents razor burn and rashes and leaves skin smooth and healthy. Definitely a, ‘best thing since sliced bread’ type of product! L’Oreal Elive Heat Slayer straightens and protects my hair. It’s the only product that has ever worked. It makes my hair feel like it’s been flat-ironed but it hasn’t. L’oreal Barrel Brush Blow Dryer, a total game changer! No more having to pull out the curl in my hair. It gives me a salon finish and cuts down the styling time.
Do you have any style rules that you live by, or do you break the rules?
I’m such a rule follower in my life, but not at all with fashion, design, or special events. Think outside the box! That’s how trends start. I see young girls come in and they’re ‘designing’ using Anthro’s denim as a base. I hear them talking, “When we get home let’s cut it here and fray the bottom!” Every day I’m asked, “Is this how you’re supposed to wear this?” To which I reply, there are no rules. I like it on you, but how do you feel? I put together outfits just like I do a room. I am not afraid to put a $10,000 sofa next to a spray-painted table. No one ever knows! I have no problem putting on a St. John Knit with drug store jewelry. No joke, I bought a set of rings and hoop earrings from Rite Aid about five years ago. I wear them regularly and people go nuts for them thinking they’re real…what does it matter? If what you’re wearing looks and feels lovely, the price tag is irrelevant. That Right Aid jewelry has lasted longer than some of the real jewelry I’ve bought.
What are your favorite online or boutique sources?
I truly don’t buy much clothing online at all. I have to see it and feel it. I’m constantly touching, manipulating the fabric, and pulling to see if and where there is ‘give’ in a garment. I love thrift stores and am a keen thrifter, I think this is perhaps why I was successful in helping others start life anew with limited funds. I have a rare radar, and seem to find hidden apparel gems that always work just so…I have had the same fortune with furniture: I have a beautiful 1950’s bedroom set I got for $350.
Do you have a particular diet and or exercise regime that you follow?
I am a sugarholic, No joke. It’s a problem. I go in and out of cutting back on my sugar and going to Keto/South Beach recipes. My favorite dessert when I’m trying to avoid ice cream is frozen blueberries at night! For exercise, I believe in stretching, stretching, and stretching. Also, small weights three times weekly and walking are key! And of course vitamins…
Do you have any anti-aging foods or supplements that are your go-to’s?
I’ve turned many people on to Lavella Lavender tablets (oral lavender essential oil) for sleep and anxiety. It works wonders; it’s natural and non-addictive. While I get compliments all the time about my hair and skin and looking young. I can’t take any credit! Good genes, but I do take a lot of Lions Mane for memory, Aloe Vera twice a day for skin, Multi-vitamin, 5 -HTP for stiffness and fatigue and better sleep, Biotin for hair, and nails, and omega-3 supplement for my liver.
What advice do you have for women over 50?
Don’t wait to look wonderful.
Don’t wait for special events to wear pieces and ensembles that make you feel good. The milestone of weight loss, a special event on the calendar, or a visit from an old college friend. All we really have is right now. Dress for who you want to be now, or the (you) you see in those special moments. Celebrate yourself today by wearing something that makes you feel at ease, comfortable, and secure in your own body and breath, will many times be the catalyst you need to push forward.
Don’t design rooms like they are museums. Rooms and the things in them are meant to be used – my mom taught me this philosophy early on! Everything has its meaning and function.
Don’t act your age. I’m so tired of hearing about ‘fashion faux pauxs!’ At 50 you get to do whatever you want. My favorite documentary is “Advanced Style”. Just watch it! These women inspire me to be who I am. They are wonderful, beautiful, fearless and above all they are enjoying the gift of life that they’ve been given! I wish more people decorated themselves with clothes and the attitude of these women. It’s about how they carry themselves and not at all about money.
Some more advice?
As far as the wardrobe goes, I try to buy for the body shape. Remember, just because it’s a fashion trend doesn’t mean it’s meant for you. Spend your money on good-quality basics for your wardrobe. Fill in with less expensive ‘fashion trendy’ pieces. For each outfit, I try to have a focal point. Maybe it’s a fantastic vintage belt buckle a statement necklace or an incredible purse. That piece will really stand out and make its statement. For women over 50, spandex and high-waisted pants are our friends! So many of us carry our weight through our tummy area. When I see this body type, I immediately pull pants with more spandex and give. They are more comfortable and conceal the muffin top. Don’t underestimate the power of good fitting undergarments for shape and comfort. Spend the time to get bras and panties that are soft and give good shape to your outfits. Style is all about form, function, and ATTITUDE. If you’re not comfortable in the outfit, don’t buy it! You want to feel as good as it looks. You’re going to have so much more fun if you’re in an outfit that is not only beautiful but checks all your function boxes too…has the pockets you need, is roomy, soft, etc. There’s nothing worse than just dreaming of ripping off those heels or that uncomfortable dress at the end of the night while you’re only halfway through it. Clothes have a way of transforming us from the outside in. It’s depressing to wear old things that bring you down. I can’t tell you how quickly I see a change in energy and attitude when I can find a couple of pieces of clothing that gives a person a better perspective. Embrace who you are at this very minute and celebrate you. I had a woman in the dressing room, not too long ago that said, “I just always buy black, is that bad? I just love it, but maybe I need to buy something else?” I said, “If that’s what makes you feel like you and you feel happy then let’s go for it and look at different shades of black and different textures! She instantly perked up!
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Thank you so much for sharing your story and your style, and thank you readers for taking time to read Ageless Style Kelly Grace Swift. You might also enjoy past Ageless Style interviews here. If you are local and shop the local Anthro store, ask for Kelly. You can also follow Kelly on Instagram here.
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Wow!, I loved Kelly’s story! Numerous times I thought she was describing me.
Cathy, I have always loved your blog, you and Kelly seem similar in style and thoughts on where women of any age (I am 65+) should be in how we feel about ourselves.
You exactly the kind of friends I want and need. Thank you both.
Does Kelly have a blog?
So good to hear from you Jes. I am so glad Kelly’s story resonated with you. Kelly does not have a blog yet but maybe you should encourage her!
What a fun and uplifting feature! Kelly is a delight and I want to jump in my car and drive straight to Anthro Carmel! Stat. It’s incredibly inspiring to read a story like Kelly’s and be assured that no matter what obstacles we face, we can overcome them and go on to a vibrant, fulfilling life. And, I think Kelly may be responsible for assisting many many people do just that. Thanks for sharing Kelly with us today … next time I’m in the Carmel area I’ll make a point to stop in the Anthro store for a little stying and a big dose of inspiration. xo
Hi Juliet
I am so glad you enjoyed Kelly’s feature. I try hard every month to find someone inspiring. Our chance meeting was just what everyone needed!
Thank you Cindy for introducing us to your fabulous new friend Kelly! She is such a positive force of nature and so inspiring! I so appreciate you Kelly for telling your story to help others and I adore your creative and loving spirit. Your addiction story hit close to home as my beautiful son struggles with alcoholism. It is truly heartbreaking but I hold onto hope, which you have bolstered with your honesty and loving spirit. I’ve read the previous comments and will look into AlAnon. Sending you hugs across the miles.
Hi Ginger
Good health to your son. You will be in my thoughts. I know what a struggle it can be.
Such a wonderful inspirational story!!
I am so glad you enjoyed it Robin!
Kelly Grace Swift is an amazing lady. Sometimes going through extremely rough times builds a tremendous amount of strength.
Cindy, and Kelly thank you for sharing your story. You are living proof that your life can turn around and shoot for the stars.
Katherine, you are so right. It can be character building or character destroying…Kelly chose building…
Thank you so much Katherine! Your words mean so much to me! Everyone’s comments I will treasure forever and ever. This interview with Cindy was perfect timing for me and I’ve definitely learned over time there are no coincidences! This has been an amazing experience! I’ve laughed and cried as I’ve processed AGAIN all that has happened. I feel so blessed you have no idea. Thank you again! xoxo
Thank you everyone for all of these lovely comments!! And a special Thank You to Cindy! I can’t wait to respond to each and everyone of you. As life goes I am working hard each day and spent yesterday moving my daughter.I ‘get’ to move her! And I ‘get’ to work. Today I get to do a lot of things because I’m sober! And just when I began to think to myself, “Am I progressing in my life?”, Cindy came along with this interview and each and everyone of you validated that I am and I am so humbled by your comments. I have been overwhelmed with the outpouring of love I’ve received over the past 2 days!
The morning the interview went live I was asleep and woke to a message. A woman stating she had just read the interview and it was just what she needed to make the decision to quit drinking. I got the chills down my arms and began to weep. So I thank Cindy and God for being a vessel that reached another struggling alcoholic. Since, 3 others have reached out making the same decision. Cindy, you’re amazing and this blog is AMAZING. You’re so talented at what you do! I am just so overwhelmed by all of the comments. I’m working today and leaving feeling filled with love. Thank you everyone from the bottom of my heart! You’ve made this gal feel like a million bucks!
You truly deserve Kelly. Such an inspirational story. Though it might be a story for someone but for others it will be a life-changing story. Thank you for sharing. Wishing you good health.
Hi Manisha
I am so glad you enjoyed the interview with Kelly
This was a GREAT interview! I pray Kelly leans on the one that saved her life.
Hi Nancy
Thank you.
Hi Nancy, yes indeed! Thank you so much! xoxo
Thank you for this lovely post with such a truly beautiful lady. It was exactly what I needed to hear today. Very meaningful and comforting.
Hi Ellie
I am so glad it was a comfort for you.
Hi Ellie
I am so glad to hear that!
Hi Ellie, That means a lot to me! Blessings to you and thank you for taking the time to comment! xoxo
Gosh what a fabulous lady and life. Inspired!!
Hi Carol
Yes she sure is!!
Hi Carol
She is very inspiring isn’t she?
Thank you so much Carol! Blessings xoxo
Thank you for the pep talk.it’s so hard for me to get out of my rut. So Kelly is a positive example that I need right now. I’ve just discovered black, white and navy, too.
Hi Donna
I am so happy that this interview might be of help.
Hi Donna
You can do it!!
Hi Donna, I know exactly how you feel. I hope in some way this helped you to start moving forward. And yes, I love that combo! I always get compliments! One step at a time and be gentle with yourself! Thank you for reaching out. xoxo
Great story! Thank you for sharing! How did you two progress from meeting in a store to being friends?
Hi Elizabeth
To be honest we just met! I am sure we will be fast friends though.
Hi Elizabeth! My customers become my friends. I love my job so much! I’m so happy to have Cindy as a new friend! Thank you for your sweet words, it means a lot to me! xoxo
Wonderful. Inspiring. Thank you!
Hi Pat
Isn’t she such an example to anyone struggling with alcohol or addiction of any kind. I only wish my sister would have chosen her path.
Thank you so much Patricia! This means so much to me you have no idea. xoxo
I wish I had read this last week when I WAS IN CARMEL AND WENT TO THE ANTHROPOLOGY STORE! I would have loved to meet her. Great post and such honesty.
Hi Cindy Lou
Next time you must introduce yourself!
What an inspiring beautiful woman. I love her advice of not waiting for special events to wear special pieces. Today is all we have . Thanks for sharing another great over 50 woman with us.
Hi Liana
I agree we sometimes we wait for the right time to wear something in particular and then it never gets worn!
Hi Lian, Thank you so much! I’m so fortunate my mom instilled that into me! xoxo
I really enjoyed reading Kelly’s story. She is strong and beautiful. Her willingness to share her story is a reminder that we can’t make assumptions about people. Kelly is truly inspirational.
Karen
Hi Karen
Of course, I was inspired by her story because my sister chose a different path. I can only wonder what her life would have been like today if she had Kelly’s strength.
Hi Karen! Thank you so much! I’ve learned not to be ashamed of my journey. It wasn’t always easy to share because of the shame I felt. Now, looking back it just makes me sad, but also it made me so much stronger and wiser. It took a very long time to get in such bad shape. I had a therapist tell me to give myself at least 1 year for every 5 I was married. At least. And that’s what I’ve done and I’m seeing myself clearer and clearer each year. Thank you for taking the time to reach out and leave a comment. I am very thankful to read them all! I’m so filled with gratitude and joy! xoxo
Thank God for AA. Countless lives have been transformed because it. So happy to read a positive story. For anyone who is uncertain if they need help, or is hesitant to go, be assured you will only find love and acceptance. You only have a better life to look forward to.
Hi Gayle
Gayle thank you for sharing your thoughts about AA. I can’t thank you enough.
Thank you Gayle! I’m so happy every day when I wake up that I’m not hung over or waking with shame. I had forgotten what it felt like to feel proud of myself. I truly got sick and tired of being sick and tired! Thank you for your kind words! xoxo
I LOVE this woman!!! I love her spirit, her style, her faith, her beauty, her confidence and most of all her honesty for the trials of life she and so many have and are going thru. There needs to be more Kelly’s in this world today. She is a breath of fresh air. Wonderful to have read all about her and the good interview also.
Thank you so much, Cindy!!!
Hi Debbie
So agree…we need more Kellys. Thank you
And you Debbie have made my day! I’m speechless. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! I’m so glad it touched your heart! That makes me smile ❤️ xoxo
Thanks, Cindy! What a wonderful interview.
I agree wholeheartedly with an earlier post that you should start your own blog, Kelly!!
There you go Kelly in your spare time blog!!
Thank you Marie! Maybe I will! Thank you for the love and support. I truly feel it in my heart. I appreciate you taking the time to leave a message. Have a wonderful weekend! xo
Thank you for posting her story. She gives me hope that a family member who is an alcoholic will soon make the choice to be sober..
Hi Meg
I so hope that your beloved family member chooses Kelly’s path.
Hi Meg, I’m so sorry to hear you have a family member struggling with this disease. Just remember there is ALWAYS HOPE, ALWAYS! Even if things seem extremely bleak. Out of the darkness I have witness endless miracles. I am here if you need any guidance, but I rely on my faith a lot. Always keep the faith and take care of you. Again, Al-Anon is a great program and can be helpful when you love someone struggling with the disease. Hang in there and remember I’m here if you need. xo
Love how Kelly pulled herself out of her alcoholism and changed her life. I have a girlfriend who needs to read this, but she would never speak to me again if I forward this to her. Not sure how to help her, but her drinking has almost cost us our lifelong friendship. I pray for her and keep trying to support her, but I feel like I’m enabling her to drink. xoxox, Brenda
Hi Brenda
Been there done that. I struggled with how to handle my sister. In the end, I just got so tired of the dishonesty and lies. I always ask myself, could I have done more? I just don’t know what it could have been. They have to decide on their own to get help. We tried to force her. It didn’t work.
Brenda, I’m so sorry to hear about your friend. It seems so simple to others, “Just stop drinking.” Crazy this disease. Sadly, it takes some major consequences normally to get someone to put it down. I would recommend Al-Anon for yourself. It’s so difficult to love someone active in their disease. Hang in there and you can always message me if you need to talk. Thank you for taking the time to reach out about the interview. This has been so overwhelming the outpouring of love I’ve received! Thank you again and please take care of you. xoxo
A very inspirational story of a gutsy woman. Thankyou xxx
Hi Jo
I agree and I am so glad you enjoyed her story.
Jo, Thank you so much! xo
Thank you for this lovely post! It’s never too late to make changes and make yourself the priority. Life is short and we need to enjoy, learn and live it to the fullest! Very inspirational as well, giving me hope even at 67!!
Hi Sylvie
You are right. It is never too late.
Thank you Sylvie! Yes, it’s never too late! I’ve learned I can start my day over at any point too! The older I get the more I realize how much I don’t know and to just let go. I try to do my best each and every day and that’s all I can ask of myself or of anyone. Thank you again for saying such kind words! xo
What a great story her life has made. I am grateful that she shared it so freely but that seems to be her way. I will take her advice on fashion and never heard of Lions Mane before but putting some in my cart!!!
Hi Holly
I never heard of Lions Mane either!
Holly, yes Lions Mane is very helpful! When I’m overworked, burning the candle at both ends, my memory starts to go. That’s a sign I’ve learned about myself that I need to get sleep and slow down! I do wear my heart on my sleeve. It’s always helped me to get others to open up if I’m being transparent. Thank you for taking the time to say such beautiful things about me. I appreciate you! Have a beautiful weekend! xo
Thank you for such an inspirational piece. This immensely and I learned a lot reading the story. I hope to take some of her advice and have self awareness and much more confidence. Thank you again for such a wonderful story.
Hi there
I am so glad you found Kelly’s interview inspiring and helpful.
Thank you so much! This makes me so happy to read! We all need to stick together and help each other. Have a beautiful weekend and thank you again for such kind words! xo
This is just a terrific post! Thank you for this. I will look for Kelly, next time, I visit the Carmel, Anthropologie. She is a total, inspiration! I love her story!
Hi Nancy
Stop in and ask for Kelly. She knows her stuff
Nancy, Thank you! I look forward to meeting you! You’ve all filled up my tank with a lot of LOVE! xo
Such an inspirational woman! Thank you for “introducing” us to her. I will be implementing some of her tips into my life.
Hi Cathy
I am so happy you enjoyed the interview. I always try to feature interesting women. Kelly struck a note with me.
Kelly is beautiful!! I can relate to her height-wise. So smart about not waiting to look wonderful! An inspiration for everyone.
Mary Ann, Thank you for your kind words! My Mom helped a close friend clean out his Mom’s home after her passing. Her closet was impeccable. Clothes were hung by color, then style. It was a rainbow of clothes. She had a cream blouse, cream shell, 3/4 length cream blouse, long sleeve cream blouse, cream cashmere mock turtle, cream basic turtle, cream cardigan etc. Every color had a matching purse, stuffed with tissue to retain its form. Each purse had her signature lipstick , money, and tissues. Each color wave, not only had its signatures handbags of many styles, but then matching shoes in every style. Flats, pumps etc. Mom remarked, “Oh my gosh, there was so much tissue paper stuffed in shoes and purses and hats! Her china and silver were carefully displayed. along with the crystal stemware. As Mom worked along side of her friend, he finally said, “You know, Mom never used any of this. She was always waiting for that special occasion and nothing was ever special enough in her mind to pull it out and use it.”
I’ve never forgotten that story. I remember getting off the phone and pulling out my wedding china that I had never used that night and setting the table for our dinner that evening. The kids were so excited! I hope this resonates with many to get your things out of your closets and cabinets and use them and enjoy them! Thank you again for your comments and I hope you have a wonderful day today. xoxo
I agree Mary Ann good advice for us all!
Inspiring! Thank you….
I’m so glad! xo
Hi Maureen
I am so happy you enjoyed it.
Wonderful story!!!! You should start a blog 🙂 I would follow you
Angie, Thank you! That is so sweet to say! Maybe I will, you never know!
She should Angie!!
I enjoyed this article so much? Thank you! What an inspiration.
Aw Rosemary, This makes me so happy to read! Thank you very much! xo
Hi Cindy
Your interview with Kelly Grace Smith is the best thing you have ever posted (& I LOVE your work!) Her story is so encourageing & uplifting, & a ray of hope in these chaotic times. A huge thanks to both of you!
Hi Susan
I am so glad Kelly’s interview resonated with you. I understand as I had a sister who died of alcoholism. Kelly is a beacon of shining light.
She truly is Rosemary.
Such bravery to share your story.
Alcoholism is a DIS-EASE. Kelly showed us the way out of an unhappy life. BRAVO
For all the transparency.
Beautiful inside and out.
THANK YOU!!
I appreciate you! Thank you very much for your kind words! xo
Hi LB
Thank you for your comment. I so wish my sister had taken Kelly’s path she would be alive today.
What a spunky woman with drive and determination. She absolutely deserves to be your pick for Ageless Style!
Thank you so much! I’m overwhelmed with all the kindness coming my way. xoxo
I agree pal!!
Kelly , Thank you for sharing your story. I so appreciate you telling your journey and your struggles. I am so hoping I get to meet you one day at Anthropologie! I love the Carmel Plaza store and will follow you. You have inspired me so much today. You clearly have a heart of gold and generosity looking at your Insta. -Also the corsage tree sounds like the coolest thing!
Cindy another great post! xo Kim
Hi Kim! Thank you! I’ve been so overwhelmed with everyones loving words. Please come in and say hello anytime. My schedule is on my IG link in my bio. I’ll take some pictures this year of my corsage tree for you! Have a beautiful day today and thank you for making my day wonderful! xoxo
Thank you so much KIM! I am so glad you loved it. Kelly guaranteed you will see Kim sometime soon!
Wow, Kelly is sure an inspiration, and I love her positive attitude and her great style! Thanks for sharing Kelly with us!
Hi Barb
You are right great attitude as well as great style!
Wow! Bravo and kudos to Kelly Ann! Great inspiration for women making positive changes in their lives. I have been in Carmel’s Anthro store a few times but don’t remember meeting Kelly. Thanks Cindy for this great interview.
Hi Karen
She hasn’t been there long but I can tell you she is going to be an incredible asset.
her story is the good in life outcome we all need now
Precisely Karen…she is like a shot in the arm so to speak…
What a great post and what a wonderful inspiration Kelly is! Inspirational story. I was
married to an alcoholic and it not only caused his death but it took me time to help heal
my daughter and myself. Plus I love Antropologie too! Love the tips.
Hi Char
I hear you I experienced the same with my sister. She was such a strong vital person and she allowed alcohol to take that away…heartbreaking…
Alcoholism has touched several of my family members. Grace’s story of overcoming her addiction instills hope. Addiction touches every family, removing the stigma and talking about ones struggle can encourage folks to seek the help they need. Thank you for sharing.
Absolutely Cynthia…
What a wonderful interview Cindy! It was a pleasure to meet Grace and hear her story. Thanks to both of you for sharing what could be such a difficult subject.
Hi Barbara
You are so right Barbara. She told her story with positivity and grace.
I loved this story. Thank you.
Hi Tracy
Her story touched my heart as well
Thank you, Cindy. I loved Grace’s testimony and story. Your pictures captured her style, beautifully.
Hi Jill
She brings humanity to alcoholism with positivity…love it
What an inspiration! And she is so darling too!!! Thanks for posting this. It’s always a good reminder what a terrible drug alcohol is. I do t drink at all. Haven’t had a sip in decades but when I watch people drinking in a movie or in tv it does make you want to join in. It’s good to
Be reminded why drinking is something you must do in moderation.
Hi Joni! Thank you! Yes, at an early age I knew my drinking was not normal. I’ve never known what normal drinking is and I wrestled with it my entire life. I just thank God every day that he took the obsession from me! I was never able to drink in moderation. But, that’s just me. Now my kiddos bring sparkling apple cider for me on special occasions. I remember thinking, “I can’t believe this liquid is controlling my life! It’s literally liquid and I can have so many other kinds of liquids!” It’s a terrible disease that’s in the mind and a tough one to beat. I’m so grateful each and every morning when I wake up feeling refreshed and not hungover!
Thank you again for your kind words! Have a wonderful weekend!
I HAD HEART SURGERY AND I DRANK TWO GLASSES OF WINE A NIGHT WITH DINNER AND BEFORE AND WAS TOLD THAT IS AN ALCOHOLIC!THEY GAVE ME TOO MUCH ANESTHESIA and I did not wake up for a long long time!!!!
Hi Joni
I am so glad you were inspired. Both of my mother’s parents were alcoholics and she never drank a drop and didn’t miss it one iota.
Really wonderful interview! Bravo Kelly for sharing your many gifts and talents with others while establishing strong boundaries to keep yourself healthy!! Thank you for sharing your story!
Hi Peggy! Thank you! Life is sure an amazing journey. Not always easy that’s for sure. I’m really learning to listen to my gut and trust it! I appreciate your sweet words and I appreciate you! Thank you again! xo
Hi Peggy
I am so happy you enjoyed the interview…very wise words
Thank you for posting this great interview with Kelly.
She is inspirational and fun and not afraid to take her life in a new direction. Bravo!!!
Peggy! Thank you so much! You’re so kind to say that! I do get very afraid, but watching others walk through their fears is what gives me the courage to do so as well. I hope you have a wonderful day and thank you again! xo
Hi Peggy
Exactly she took what could have been a disaster and turned it into a positive
HELLO KELLY!
I LOVE THAT YOU LOVE ADVANCED STYLE………MY “VICTIM” THIS MONTH IS A GAL FROM ARI SETH COHENS BOOKS!I ALSO MET SCARLETT J. AT ONE OF ARI’s ADVANCED STYLE PARTIES!I HAD NO IDEA WHO SHE WAS SHE WANTED TO MEET ME!!LIFE IS FULL OF GIFTS OF JOY AND I HAVE FOUND THOSE ALONG THE WAY…….ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO MATCH MAKING!HAVING PEOPLE MEET UP OR INTRODUCING OTHERS TO PEOPLE I KNOW THEY WOULD ENJOY!SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE A REAL GIFT!
I TOO HAD A VINTAGE STORE FOR 12 YEARS!AND I LIVED IN Orange County WAY BACK WHEN………I WORKED FOR I. MAGNIN’s AND BULLOCKS WILSHIRE WHILE STUDYING FASHION MERCHANDISING!
YOUR HOME IN NEWPORT LOOKS LIKE IT COULD HAVE BEEN ON LIDO?
I THOUGHT YOUR INTERVIEW WAS TERRIFIC………..SO INTERESTING!
NOW WHAT I REALLY WANT TO KNOW IS HOW YOU ENDED UP IN PACIFIC GROVE?!!
AND WHAT IS LION’s MANE?MUST CHECK THAT OUT!
ANTHROPOLOGIE WAS A GIFT TO ALL OF US A MUCH NEEDED STORE……………….XXX
Good morning! Sorry for the delay, I’ve been working and moving my daughter! I was close to Lido! One block from the wedge on the peninsula point. Love that area.
Lions Mane I take for memory! Thank you for such kind words!
Oh, and yes! I’ve watched ADVANCED STYLE I don’t know how many times! I love looking into their homes as well. The wallpapered kitchen! So wonderful! Have a beautiful day today! xo
THE WEDGE………………I REMEMBER IT WELL!
I do miss it at times! Nothing like it when a swell comes in! Xo
Eliz she is from the area!!
This is a wonderful post. What a lovely person, I wish I was close enough to
go to the store and meet her.
Thank you very much! I wish you were close enough too!
I wish you could to Cindy
really lovely and inspirational story. Thank you for sharing such a REAL lady! Keep shining and keep making AGING a verb to be celebrated
Thank you so much! xo
Absolutely Dianne!!