I had a fashion post ironically on black and white ready to post today. Instead, I am discussing something I swore I never would. This blog is about seeing the beauty in our homes and gardens and embracing our own personal style. I have always been so proud of this community we have created. I feel like you are my soulmates and my better self. I have a question for you. Is Kindness More Important than Politics?
Yesterday I interviewed a perfectly lovely lady on Ageless Style. She stated that her fashion icon was Melania Trump. Some of you went ballistic. You quickly assumed she is a Trump Supporter. Maybe you are wrong. Should it matter? She simply stated she admired Melania Trump’s style. Why should we care? Of the recent first ladies in the White House which would you consider to have great style? Perhaps Jackie Kennedy, Nancy Reagan, Michele Obama or maybe Melania Trump? What if she had said she admired Michele Obama’s style? Would that have been okay? I am afraid the Obama haters would have been vocal then.
I emailed Kay Harms yesterday and apologized for our behavior. I told her I considered asking her to remove her choice of Melania Trump before it went to print. I thought about it, and thought to myself, everyone has the right of self expression. She said she would have been happy to remove her name. That would have been much easie. Would it have been fair?
Are you proud of who we have become? If you meet someone that you would like to get to know better, would you invite them to coffee or for a glass of wine? If you find out that their political leanings do not align with yours would you choose not to? Do we no longer listen and respect our neighbors even if they think differently? We have all had different experiences that have caused us to believe the way we do. Have we forgotten that? Can’t we all agree to disagree? Didn’t our parents sit around the dinner table and discuss politics in a neighborly manner? What has happened to us?
I want to be able to continue to interview women of all colors, and walks of life. Many of you have asked that I interview more women of color. I have been trying trust me. I have a very interesting and accomplished woman that I have lined up for the future. I hope she isn’t scared off at this point.
I don’t ever want this blog to become political or divided. That happened yesterday. We are better than that. This blog is about finding beauty in our home and garden, and embracing this stage of life. Let’s not turn it into something it isn’t. We have plenty of other opportunities for that. Perhaps someone doesn’t represent all that we believe in. We are all women who are doing the best we can. Let’s support one another in spite of our differences. Let’s look at ourselves and ask if politics has become more important than kindness. What do you think? Is Kindness More Important Than Politics? I sure hope so. The next generation is counting on us.
STEPPING OFf THE SOAPBOX…NEVER TO RETURN AGAIN…
FURTHER READING HERE:
America is Exceptional in the Nature of its Political Divide
Five Things that are More Important than Politics
Dear Cindy,
I rarely have commented, though I read your blog faithfully, but feel I must comment now.
The women whom you interview are your guests on this blog. We readers, in a lesser way, are also your guests. It is appallingly rude for anyone on here to insult or denigrate one of your guests in any way whatsoever, no matter the virtue-signaling some are compelled to exhibit.
I found the nasty responses to your guest’s stating her admiration of Melania Trump’s style completely abhorrent and
unspeakably boorish. I seriously doubt you’d have been subjected to similar vitriol if another guest admired Hillary Clinton’s style. Yes, one side is full of hate.
No, you should not stoop to edit any of your guests’ opinions to mollify these people. If they cannot keep their Trump derangement in check (which you’re now aware they cannot, even on a completely apolitical blog), then I suggest you consider screening comments when you suspect they will attack.
Thank you sincerely for all the work you do!
I would like to see the site become, as Nancy Yates said, more “enriching” than just “fluff.” Cindy, I loved your thought provoking question of yesterday! All the replies were what we need in our world, not silencing of opinions. When we all agree on everything, whether fashion or politics, it becomes quite boring, imo. Who knows but that one’s opinion may impact another or at least cause them to think about the subject being debated. Are you really being KIND if you know truth or have another opinion but believe otherwise and don’tspeak out? I don’t think so! I have even loved when close friends told me what to do to improve on an outfit! I always appreciated their honesty! I would not want a friend who agreed with me all the time…just saying.
Hello… I am also a faithful guest of yours, & have never commented before on any blog.
I commend you for being fearless & balanced in your decision.
Since when does beauty, in home or person, follow political lines?
Why do we as seekers of what is good, & beautiful, throw around such hateful words of polarization?
Thankyou for your courage & sharing so much good thru your wonderful posts which make me smile
I will keep being your guest , & will with joy ask others to join me.
Colleen
Summer has great style 🙂 !
Hi Cindy, I am sure you will not post this message but I have a different perspective on American politics, as I am an American but live, actually not far from you. I do however have many years of direct political experience having been both a supporter volunteer and paid staff of a top political figure.
You have for certain increased your readership but this posting. And that is a win for you.
You have taken these comments “out of context’ for what this is, this is a blog for high income women over 60 for the most part, this is fluff as the saying goes.
What your now new readership will see in the next days will be important for you to keep them hooked. Hooked on fashion and buying. Let’s be real, this is not a political site or insightful site for discussions. So if you are truly concerned – let it go, or as it would be seize the opportunity to make this blog something enriching and move away from all the fluff OR stay with it and be excited you have now for a while at least gained a greater audience.
Your move.
Hi Nancy
I don’t censor my comments and I thank you for yours. I will not gain readership from this debacle but surely will lose some.Anyone that is “hooked” by this discussion will be disappointed that we will not be discussing this further. My readers come here to escape, for the “fluff” in your words. I am not a scholar, or an educator, nor do I pretend to be one. I am a simple 68 year old woman that started a blog (actually to inform people about an airbnb that we started during the construction slump of 2011). I wanted to let people know about this beautiful area. It morphed into a blog about Interior Design where I showcased some of my work. Several years ago a woman whom I admire greatly, asked me to be a brand ambassador for a clothing company that she ran at the time. I thought she had mistaken me for someone else. I am not a “fashionista” or an expert on anything. I am “a jack of all trades, and master of none”. We talk about design, gardens, entertaining and fashion here. Recently, we have been discussing “aging with grace”. Many of us here are interested in aging in a positive way. My readers I would say are vital, well read, interesting, and kind. They are not looking to me “to put the world back on its axis”.
Your blog was perfectly said as is your response to the above woman. Your blog is not “fluff”! I love that it’s multi faceted. So many blogs are women just posing for a couple outfits. That’s fluff. I am a fan of your blog since it covers fashion, interior design, recipes, and speaking of interesting women. I also love your infectious smile! You are a kind soul and YES, kindness should always come before politics! It’s really a shame that people can’t have healthy political debates and still respect each others opinion. Then move on. If someone said they liked the style of a First Lady that is married to a President I don’t like and I didn’t like her style, I would respect her opinion and never attack that person. I wish we all could be kinder. Isn’t that what the Lord wants from us? Keep doing what you do, Cindy! I love your blog!
I totally agree that kindness should matters more than politics. In fact, I don’t understand why people are so sensitive about this lately. Your blog is definitely not the kind of place for this type of discussion. I understand that politics can be quite a polarizing subject but,people’s response has gone a bit out of hand these days. Our world has changed and will keep changing, we either accept it and enjoy what really matters or simply isolate ourselves in a personal cocoon. Politics aside, Melania Trump does have indeed a great fashion style or at least her fashion style Let’s not forget that prior to her Marriage to the Trump’s family she was an international model and was exposed to the greatest houses at the industry of fashion, I’m sure her fashion sensibility has much more to do with her early life as a model than her political preferences or her marriage to Trump.
“What hurts most is not the cruelty, but the silence of the bystander.” (E. Weisel, a Holocaust survivor.) I am heartened and proud that so many people spoke out at even the mention of Mrs. Trump. I remember the fashion statement she made when visiting a migrant camp. She wore a jacket emblazoned with the caption “I don’ really care – Do you” She was certainly not being kind -but cruel – the Trumps are not kind people. And we should never be silent when anyone is trying to destroy our Democracy.
I agree. And I think this is why so many commented.
Well, I was offended by AOC and her Met Gala dress that stated to tax the rich. Yet she never paid for the dress that was not free until the media reported it, then she finally paid for it. out.If someone liked her style or even that controversial dress, I would respect their opinion and keep my mouth shut. After all, the blog was about style and NOT your opinion of that person. As far as Melania Trump and her jacket that you are offended by, The message on her jacket was a message to the media that was being unkind to her husband. At least she and her husband visited the migrant camp since they cared and wanted to see how they could make it better. I haven’t seen Jill there!
Sorry Cindy for this political response. I just wish people could look at the good and stop assuming and jumping to negativity before knowing facts. It’ll be my last!
Intolerance is not a very stylish look.
So sorry this happened on your site.
Cindy, your compassion and grace will carry you thru.
. I read the interview last night and was quite surprised at the content. Firstly, the “ All American “ title of the blog, the style of clothing, which was very different from your other blog posts, the MT comment, and the reference to Christianity. It just didn’t read at all like your usual blog posts.
I’m sure it was quite uncomfortable to read the comments that were negative. I, personally, did not find them “unkind”. It was your readers’ opinions disagreeing with your content. I would think, if you have a public blog, you would be prepared for unhappy readers.
I can understand your knee jerk reaction in writing another post to try to defend yourself and be outraged by these comments by judging them as unkind, but perhaps the better action would have been to just move on and be mindful of your content going forward.
I love your blog and I love your beautiful sense of style! Your recommendations are so wonderful. Thank you for your time and dedication to your work.
Bravo!
Yes, kindness is always more important. And, why does it seem that every comment now has to have a political explanation to go along with it?
Let’s just enjoy the moment, because I so enjoy your blog and instagram…it brightens my day! Thank you.
Don’t doubt yourself
Manners
They were a thing
If you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all
The Golden Rule
Michael Jordan: Everyone buys shoes
That wise old owl- the more he heard, the less he spoke…
Oh the farmer and the cowman should be friends
Come on people now smile on your brother
Just continue to be a good example of being nice and kind and constructive
There is so much good in the world
Have a lovely weekend
I love your blog! People have become so hateful and downright mean. I’m sorry you felt attacked, it should never have happened! Kindness wins, always!
Your blogs audience has certainly grown up with manners and respect. What we have never experienced is living in a country where our freedoms are being seriously challenged. Some now banned in some states. We have witnessed our democracy in peril on Jan 6. Our Supreme Court is being bought and paid for. The COVID pandemic was so botched for us. We live in a world of hate and violence instead of love and understanding. Anti Jew, Chinese, black is growing rapidly. The biggest common denominator is the name Trump.
I almost have a PTSD reaction to his voice on tv. His family stood by his side therefore they are also the problem.
To expect your audience to not have a knee jerk reaction is not understanding how immensely impactful this person named Trump has damaged our country, damaged people’s sense of well being, increased the mental health problems, contributed to COVID deaths, and the list goes on and on.
I frequently think of leaving the United States to live. So do many many people.
Love your blog and taste. Look forward to cool clothes and fun design. Today I saved the post to savor late in the day anticipating cute clothes.
Until next time.
You probably should have stopped after your first sentence. Everything after that is neither kind, good manners or respect.
Well said! Thank you
You can’t tell a book by it’s cover! Wow like everything in our country this created so much buzz. A simple answer to your question is KINDNESS every minute of every day. We do not walk in others shoes, we do not experience the same experience in the same way. I am grieved at what we have all become, myself included. I have to continually remind myself to be kind and express genuine gratitude to others for what they do. I never had to remind myself, it was part of my nature. If we could just stop and listen, not judge, we would all benefit from the conversation. Unfortunately that doesn’t seem to be possible right now. Would any of you like to be in MT shoes? Do any of us know what she has been thru. Defending her is the last thing I ever thought that I would do. You can’t fault her sense of style. Yes one outfit probably cost as much as my entire wardrobe and everything is tailor made to her frame. Why is it we can’t just enjoy a lovely dress worn well on a lovely woman. Cindy as per usual you are absolutely right on the mark and I am so glad you called out for kindness. Thank you
Kindness always! Sending you a big virtual hug, for the couple rough days you’ve endured…
Thank you for your wise words today Cindy. This must have been a hard post to write, but it was very necessary. I’m sad that our country has become so divided.
I think we need to try to understand those with whom we disagree. How else are we going to heal the deep divisive wounds in the world today!
I do not admire MT’s style, but thanks to you I have found a new blog to follow. I love Kay’s style!
Well said Cindy. Kindness before politics should always prevail. What is wrong with so many people today??? My favorite quote. “ if you can be anything in this world, be kind.”
Cindy I am sorry I had to write this comment. But the women who we are all now talking about is not without blame. She was in PR..she know very well what would happen if she wrote about MT…maybe she wanted this . Also the fact that she needed to mention her religion….not something that should be a part of this blog. If you want to deal with politics and religion….it is another blog entirely . I think you are in control….where this goes is up to you. I hope you make a good choice.
Well said Cindy! I love your blog as well as style and always look here for advice! I will continue to do that. Best wishes for a wonderful holiday of rememberance!
I read Kay’s interesting thoughts about style and her blog. I did not take her comments on Melania as political. I was just surprised she chose MT as someone’s fashion choices she admired. I always thought Melania Trump’s style was sometimes attractive and other times definitely not. It also was an odd choice because the clothes she wears are not the kind of clothes most of us would have any need to wear in our lives. So I’m stuck wondering why she chose MT in the first place. I guess I’d choose someone I could emulate in my everyday life. That’s why I read fashion blogs; women are wearing clothes I could see myself wearing.
Cindy,
I agree with you! Seems no one can make a comment (even a harmless one about fashion) without being labeled and ostracized. We have become such an angry and judgmental society.
I love Kay, followed her for as long as she has been on social media and will continue to do so.
Maybe something isn’t my favorite….is OK. We’re given the option to have an opinion and additionally an option to keep criticism to ourselves.
Thanks, love and follow everything you post. 😊
Such a well written post Cindy…..it really resounded with me. Believe me the political divide is just the same here in Australia! I would have preferred to think that humanity had risen above it and realised that no leader can be perfect, however, some people are so passionate and evangelistic about certain political parties and their leaders that everything to them is black and white. Me? I’m not interested because as you say there are more important things to focus on.
Thanks for calling for a little bit of civility. I’m glad, so glad that you spoke up.
Cheering you on!
BraverAngels.org is a great organization that seeks to help us put off tribalism and the polarization whipped up by the media. We have more in common than we realize when we get to know others who don’t believe exactly like we do. We can be gracious and respectful and not generalize about groups of people. I have hope. Thank you, Cindy, for your gracious and kind work on your blog.
Hi Cindy,
I’m writing to offer you encouragement and support. Your blog is one of my favorites, and the only one from which I have ever purchased anything. It is useful to me. It has real value. I thank you for all the hard work you put into it.
That said, I must mention that Kay Harms has done you no favors. She must have known that the MT comment would cause an uproar. Have you asked yourself why she mentioned MT on your blog, and not on her own?
I hope this disruption blows over quickly, and I look forward to your next post.
Cindy, 1 party is anti-Democratic (see failed coup on 1/6). The other party supports Democracy.
If you read Emily Post, you know that there was/is something called “the cut direct,” which was used when a person so violated the norms of behavior that they were socially ostracized.
I believe that people who support the anti-Democratic party deserve to be ostracized.
Paula L.
I applaud you for this post. I admit that my reaction when I first read the words “Melania Trump” was negative, but then I re-read the sentence, and it was clear that it was the clothing that was admired, saying nothing about the person. You mentioned that our parents were able to sit at the dinner table and talk about politics civilly, which is of course a worthy goal. The rules I was taught regarding social occasions were “Never discuss politics or religion.” That’s the way I’ve been navigating interactions with neighbors and family members. On the other hand, I think the world would be better if we were able to truly listen to each other, without jumping to conclusions, conflating ideas, and getting emotional.
I agree!
Cindy…I find it very interesting (but probably not surprising!) that your guest’s mention of Melania Trump should draw such ire. I have a four girlfriends that I often refer to as my “golf girls” because our friendship took root on a golf course many years ago. We used to spend time in great conversation over wine, solving all of the world’s problems. Even though we each came from different perspectives, we could agree to disagree, and share genuine hugs before parting for home. Not anymore. The political divide that has ravaged our country also ravaged our friendship. I still see each of them on an individual basis, but it’s been years since the four of us have shared wine together. That makes me very sad. I appreciate your stand to publish your guest’s interview honestly without censorship. It’s some of the responses that are disappointing. I vote for kindness, understanding, and making room for differences. And I’ll take Melania Trump’s fashion advice any day of the week.
Your guest (Kay) chose MT as a woman she admires for her style. MT is a beautiful and fashionable woman who chose to wear a jacket (“I don’t care… do you?”) while visiting a facility where families were separated and parents we’re worried sick about the safety of their children with children frantically crying out for their parents. Where was the kindness that day? Of all of the beautiful, fashionable women in the world, Kay chose MT? Kay professes to be a Christian… wow. Just because your readers called out Kay and you indirectly, doesn’t mean they were being unkind. They were indignant over Kay’s choice and voiced their displeasure. (Hypocrisy?) Cindy… I agree with your desire to keep your blog apolitical, but if that is truly your wish, I am sure you (and Kay) can find role models out in the blogosphere that have no connection to divisive figures and who model kindness in their personal lives.
What do you really know about MT? Are you a personal friend, colleague? Perhaps you are judging her. I am not saying she is a personal or close friend and I really do not know much about her but I do know she looks beautiful in her choice of clothing. Isn’t that enough? No judgment about “divisive figures who model kindness”.
Kay was only commenting on her clothing style and choices.
I do not know MT personally and I agree that she is beautiful and fashionable. Some of her choices in clothing during her four years in the limelight sent messages (that I found unkind) without saying a word. I guess you and I have a different idea of the term “role model”. I would hope Cindy and her guests would choose fashion role models who modeled kindness in addition to fashionable clothing and accessories. You are most welcome to your opinion but I respectfully disagree. I don’t think my “disagreeing” is unkind.
After Jan. 6th I couldn’t take it anymore and switched parties. I was a life long Republican until then. I decided this week to take a break from the news and anything political. I don’t know if I can take another 18 months of this. I noticed it’s been making me somewhat negative and stressed and that is not how I want to be. I have a close friend that follows some individuals on Instagram that are all about politics. I just can’t. I look at Instagram and blogs for beauty and design as an escape from the craziness of this world. I don’t mind an occasional post if it’s about politics, if I don’t like it I can always unfollow them. But I would never think of leaving any nasty comments.
It’s funny about the Melania comments. I personally cannot stand the Kardashians. However, I recently was trying on a blouse when my daughter and I were shopping. She told me that it was from a line of clothing by Khloe Kardashian. Did I decide not to buy it? No, I brought it home because I love it. It’s sort of the same thing, I bought it for the style and how it looked on me not because of the person behind it.
I too have been hesitant to post. I have also not read all the comments from yesterday and today. I do, however agree 100% with Chars comments particularly about values and respect.
I will go one step further, Cindy, to say that you alone control this blog. You knew this would cause controversy but you opted to allow it anyway. Then you blamed commenters for their lack of “kindness” and implied that the state of our discourse is politics as usual. . It’s not. You do have some responsibility for all of this.
On a positive note I love your blog and your fashion sense. Because of you I just purchased the cb shades lily skirt in white and it’s heading to the beach with me! Wish you all the best!
Hi Constance
This is my last comment. I guess I am naive Constance. I am an optimist. I really did not expect this. I am still hopeful that we can become a kinder gentler nation.
I truly do wish you all the best. Sadly there are many in this country that are not hoping for a kinder gentler nation. I am not one of those and I don’t believe you are either. Peace!
You should not have to defend yourself for a guest speaking of Melanie as someone whose fashion inspires them. We are taking about fashion….. not politics. I am a conservative but I don’t write negative comments about liberals speaking out because it’s plain dumb. We are all grown women and we all need to practice tolerance and respect. Even when we don’t agree. If we could get back to that our country would be a better place. If some speaks of Melania Trump and it triggers them then good riddance. You don’t need followers like that.
You’re amazing and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!
This is a blog to get away from political views. You had to know that posting a person that admires MT would be controversial.
I didn’t view people’s comments as mean but just disappointed, you can’t separate MT from her husband and he is the most unkind and divisive person in politics today. MT can afford to spend thousands of dollars on her cloths and the way she looks. She shows no interest or caring for anything other than the way she looks! There are so many other things you can cover, stay away from politics unless you want people to write angry opinions.
Oh, I guess you know her personally?
Cindy Hattersley 2024! Just kidding…I wouldn’t wish that for anyone. KINDNESS over politics all day, every day. I was raised to treat others as I would like to be treated. I would never want to be mistreated for wearing a certain item of clothing or for who I married, etc. years or decades ago. I would never want to be mistreated for admiring someone’s fashion. I’ll add another important word…FORGIVENESS.
Thank you for all of your positive posts and showcasing beautiful people, places and things.
My apologies to Kay Harms.
Your adorable Summer has a Grandmother of character and good influence!
Come on women, we can and must be better than this!
Hi Suzi
You are so kind. Thank you so much for your support.
Suzi speaks the truth! Don’t let any of this get you down. Your core readers are NOT disappointed in your choice of guests.
Agree!!!
Amen! It would be good if we could put aside our political differences and pray for the country we are leaving for our grandchildren. That’s my heartfelt concern as I look around.
I thought long and hard about posting a comment. Of course kindness is the best, but
its not as simplistic as that for what is happening in our country now. We can not be
naive about the hate, the divisiveness, the lack of respect for anyone of another color
or belief that is being dictated by a large segment of our population. It hard to be kind
to those who hate so much and feel their way is the only way to be dictated. This has
to do with values and respect for personal choices and beliefs. Respect and kindness is
a two way street and our country is at a crossroads. Most of us want to get past this
and not have politics be the focus but is permeates our lives now. It doesn’t mean we are
thin skinned, its bigger than that and we each must decide which path we believe in and
act accordingly.To stick our heads in the sand and ignore because its not nice won’t solve the
enormity of what is happening.
I understand your need to address this bur once again it truly shows the emotions and impact
on all of us these days. Love the blog though and the ability to escape to more pleasant and
fun topics.
sorry for the above format, my Mac has a mind of its own!
Hi Char
Our country is at a cross roads, and yes politics permeates our lives now. I am not suggesting anyone stick their head in the sand. I am only suggesting we be kind to our guest.
I had to drop a fashion blog I enjoyed when the author brought in her political views. Yes, kindness is always the most important. “The Golden Rule” and it must come from both sides of the political divide. Melania Trump is a beautiful woman. So is Michelle Obama. You know who always looked put together? Pat Nixon. You have addressed the issue in this post. Can we now move on? I would hate to have to drop your blog, too.
Hi Kay!
Amen to moving on! You won’t hear another word from me on this issue. On to fashion on Monday. It just didn’t feel right today. It seemed a bit trivial…
I think it best if you stop commenting on others’ comments, Cindy. You mean well, I’m sure, but I do believe it’s stirring the pot.
Hi Kathryn
I will honor your request
❤️
So sorry, Cindy, to learn that this happened and such unpleasant comments. It is heartening, however, to read here, so many understand an expressed opinion on style is something separate from politics. (Or should be!) Your post here is such an appropriate response and reminder that kindness should always come first. Thank you.
Thank you Lesley for sharing your thoughts.
100% agree, comments about fashion and style should not be considered political. Your post on kindness is spot on!
Kindness should always trump politics. (Pardon the pun. ) I was taught if you can’t say something nice, say nothing at all. Thanks for being a bright spot in my week. I follow you to get a few moments away from the decisiveness of our country. I have no idea if you lean left or right. I like it that way.
Hi Donna
That is the way it will stay…
I cannot admire anyone (no matter how well they are dressed) who’s values I do not respect. Sadly I have cut ties with many friends because of this… but on the other hand I have made new friends and deepened existing one because of this.
Hi Becky
You have every right to express your opinion, just as Kay should not be attacked for someone’s style she admires.
It is unfortunate that we are not able to make room for each other. All of us have the right to our opinion and this right is to be protected.. The world is made up of many people with a lot to share. We learn by interacting and then trying to understand others thoughts. It is the sharing between us that allows for growth and tolerance.
Michelle
I wish you had written this post for me. I am not an astute writer.
Beautiful
Civil discourse is a skill/art that is, sadly, practiced not nearly enough today. Respecting and considering someone else’s viewpoint is mutually beneficial. To listen open-mindedly is to allow ourselves to grow, to be open, I like the way Rumi said it, “ Out beyond ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing, there is a field, I will meet you there.”
As for Kindness: I think Jean-Jacques Rousseau nailed it with, “What wisdom can you find that is greater than kindness?” Kindness is welcome and at home anywhere. Politics, not so much😊
Politics not so much.
Hi Pamela
I adore that Rumi quote. Thank you for sharing it here. And the Jean-Jaques Rousseau on point. Thank you so much for sharing.
Dear Cindy,
I haven’t had the chance to read your blog with Kay Harms, so I was not aware of her comments about Melania. While I do not agree with her politics (Melania’s), the fact that some people felt the need to be nasty about Kay’s choice and it IS her choice, and make your blog political is just that NASTY.
And to all the Ladies? who felt the need to make a negative comment, if you don’t agree move on. Imagine the embarrassment Cindy felt, caused by you. You not only hurt Kay you hurt Cindy. Shame on you.
I never read comments, and don’t usually do it, but I’m totally supportive of your post today. How do we try to come together as a society when we put up walls and immediately judge others by one comment or possibly different views? As a society hoping to be more inclusive and accepting of diversity, it seems we should be including everyone in the conversation, and not jumping to judgement, as we see so much in society today. I’m glad you spoke out.
Well said Cindy! I have previously said that you are a favorite blog. I enjoy every post, not only the design and fashion, but the variety of content. I especially enjoy the positivity! I am disappointed to see that some have called for censorship. I think that we forget that Freedom of speech is something that not everyone is allowed in this world. We can and should use that speech with respect and kindness. Keep doing what you do Cindy – you are the best!
Thank you Barb for your words of wisdom.
Cindy,
Kindness wins. I love you even more with your wise and gentle response.
You first caught my attention on Pinterest wearing a long white tunic , black leggings with black and white animal print flats.!
Looking forward to your black and white fashion post
Hi Peggy
On to black and white! As my favorite Aunt would say after a long discussion before going to bed…”Now that we have put the world back on its axis we can go to bed”
Hi Cindy,
No question, Kindness Matters. You did a lovely interview as always. When I read it I didn’t think about politics. I thought of what true Style Melania has. Sadly, for many, everything is viewed through a political lens. I long for the days when this wasn’t the case. You have a fantastic blog and I applaud the way you have handled this.
Thank you so much Pamela
I agree Pamela. I did not think of the politics. If you do not like what is written , move on. It is Cindy’s blog (her home) in a way and I’m sure you would not abuse (yes abuse) someone in their home or their guest in the home. I am sure that many that have made these nasty comments claim to be Christians. Kindness for the WIN.
I have to say that when Melania Trump was mentioned in yesterday’s post, it did jump out at me. I bet it jumped out to most people who read the post, whether they reacted negatively, positively, neutrally or whatever – tively. I expected that people would react, and I greatly admire your tackling that reaction head on in today’s post. I do see how put together Melania is, but I don’t see it as good style. I see it as a very, very carefully composed picture she shows to the public, something she can control. What we wear speaks volumes about how we feel inside. She probably doesn’t have control over most of her life. and regardless how you feel about her husband and today’s politics, I’m sure we can all agree it is chaotic. So I see Melania’s style as sad. I see a lonely woman. What a life she must lead, regardless of how much money she has. She does look good in blue 🙂
Interesting observation. I have wondered that myself…
How can we possibly come together as a country when one group of people think the 2020 election was rigged and sought to overthrow our government. Melania has chosen to stay with her husband therefore, she agrees with his actions.
Hi Phyllis
I am not defending Melania and certainly not Trump. I am defending Kay’s right to voice who’s style she admires.
I agree. She’s like a cardboard cut out. She exhibits no joy, which in my opinion contributes to style. That being said, if MT has a style that Kay admires, then she has every right to voice her opinion. It definitely surprised me, though.
Hi Anne
Well said
Bless your heart, so you know her personally, do you? Some people prefer to keep their lives private. Who are you to judge her?
Hi Cindy.,
The most important comment I want to make is I respect and admire how you have addressed and responded to some of the comments coming back from the interview you had with Ann. I can tell from getting to know her she is a lovely lady. We may not see everything the same way but to belittle her because you see something totally differently is not being nice and respectful. I can go on about some of my thoughts on this entire subject but it’s not necessary. What I would like to share is a pearl of wisdom that a dear friend wrote to me years ago. She shared this comment because we were at a homeowners board meeting. Some got vocal and some of the comments were uncalled for and unprofessional.
Here are the “words of wisdom,”
“There’s so much good in the worst of us, and so much bad in the best of us, it shouldn’t behoove any of us to criticize the rest of us.”
Onto a much lighter topic and a topic of pure joy and innocence. I 💗💜💗the picture of Summer with her fur baby. Precious. Yes be kind is always the best response coming from all of us. I was raised on this word and respect for others.
I feel very strongly that our world needs more LOVE.
Cindy, I’ve been meaning to ask you is it possible to have the type that we respond to be darker? I’m asking you because I deal with bad dry eye, and my vision could be lots better.
Thank you for all you do for our community, you are a gem. Feeling grateful to know you.
Hi Katherine
I will see if I can have the type face darkened. I chose that picture of Summer because of the innocencde of a child. She met that dog at a winery. She loves animals and people indiscriminately. If only we could be more like that.
Cindy. Wow. Just. Wow. Thank you so much for opening your heart and writing today’s blog. You really touched my heart.
I’m not going to lie…when I first read Melania Trump…my stomach clenched. Then I thought…why? She is a beautiful woman with a great sense of style and your guest has every right to speak and admire her style.
Truthfully, unkindness is what has brought us to this point in our country. On all sides of the political spectrum. It’s time to move forward to be accepting, thoughtful, respectful and KIND.
More pearls of wisdom Katie.
Wow is right! I love your gracious perspective on this. King Ed’s is the key right here- yes everyone has an opinion on this and everyoo, and we have a right to agree or diGree, but with kind words not unkind words. We have a God that forgives and loves all of us. For any bad or unkind word, this is fashion opinions not anything else, thank you, Cindy, for being an example for us all
Wow is right! I love your gracious perspective on this. King Ed’s is the key right here- yes everyone has an opinion on this and everyoo, and we have a right to agree or diGree, but with kind words not unkind words. We have a God that forgives and loves all of us. For any bad or unkind word, this is fashion opinions not anything else, thank you, Cindy, for being an example for us all
Thank you Sur for reading and sharing your thoughts…
Cindy, I love your blog, and I love your style. Generally I’m in agreement that we need to be kind, but I need to qualify that statement. I respect other people when their views differ from mine, but there are limits to that respect. I don’t see how I can give any respect or even tolerance to the racism, homophobia, or transphobia that is expressed by others. I don’t see how I can see as credible any political candidate who espouses those views or who has been accused with credible evidence of fomenting insurrection and sexually assaulting women. The hate and division has been fomented by one political party in this country and more particularly by a handful of individuals. I’ll continue to be a faithful reader of your blog. Thanks for all your work.
Thank you Maggie for qualifying your comment with grace.
Let me tell you about my very large Catholic family. We are all very Catholic and we can talk religion, but we are mixed of politics. But we are snarky enough to note how someone looks and nice enough to say how someone looks great! So, we do not talk politics! We do not want food fight like the kind we had as kids in front of grandchildren! It is poor conduct! and would make our heavenly mother very mad!
Thank you, Maggie. You expressed my sentiments too, but in a better way than I could have.
Hi Cindy,
Love your blog–it is always fun, thoughtful, and measured.
Kindness always tops politics. Politics aside, though, perhaps what caused the controversy here is that the manner in which First Ladies dress is often a statement about their values, besides being a statement about the sorts of designers they support. Much has been written about this by fashion and news commentators. So, I suppose in mentioning a First Lady as a role model, politics immediately come into play. So, I can see both sides to this.
I follow Kay’s blog and think she has terrific style; and I think Melania Trump is a beautiful woman. The disconnect for me when Kay mentioned Mrs. Trump is that their styles are so different. Melania is Givenchy; Kay is affordable brands that she puts together effortlessly. But then I suppose we can love the way someone dresses without necessarily emulating them….as they say, it’s complicated!
Hi Kathy
I think we can admire and emulate one’s style in a way that is affordable to us.
Sadly the Trump name causes a knee-jerk reaction that prevents us from judging the former First Lady on her style alone. We’ve been infected by a virus of hate and mistrust with no apparent antidote.
you are so right. We must be kinder to each other. Show a little grace and respect. This world has become such an ugly place if our thoughts differ. Can we not admire someones style with out putting politics front and center. Yes Melania wears designer clothes but that does not mean we are not able to admire her style and grace.
Hi Kay
Kindess truly matters…
Hi Kay
Ugly indeed….
I understand that Barb
Hi Cindy! Kindness always comes first for me. I value and respect the opinions of others. I don’t feel the need to insert my opinion on any topic. If the discussion gets political, I leave it.
I have followed you for years and will continue to do so. Thanks for speaking up in a way that is both kind and thoughtful about this topic. I appreciate you!!❤
Amen Cindy!! Well said and thank you.
Hi Marilyn
How are my two old pals?
Bravo, Cindy. Thank you for remaining true to yourself and for addressing this topic.
Hi Jeannine
Of course
Cindy,
Maybe you should get on your “soapbox” more often. You are so right. We need to have an open mind and welcome kindness into it. Thank you for standing up for what is right. Enough nasty comments about people. Thank you!!!!
Thank you Claudia for your kind comment
I think it is a very sad day in America when even the mention of a person engenders so many mean spirited comments. I work in an industry where I deal with many different cultures, with many differing opinions. I have had clients ask me what news station I listen to obviously so they can determine my political views. My answer is that I don’t listen to the TV news for good reason. I also am on social media again for business and I am literally astounded at the comments people make that are so filled with anger and directed at someone else. Even Next Door that is supposed to be neighbors sharing information on the neighborhood has become a harbor for political attacks. I am very glad to see that you have addressed this and your tolerance for readers who continue to write unkind comments should be censored.
Oh yes NextDoor is awful. It has become a political forum although lately I have seen less of the political comments. I hope that is a trend going forward.
Don’t get me started on Next Door. It took me a year to unsubscribe from it. I know there is often valuable information there, but it seems to be more of a forum for lonely people and political commentary.
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Thank you Cindy for your blog. You have opened your home and life to us. Your time and writings are appreciated. Please continue to bring us interesting people of diverse backgrounds.
If you can’t see the loveliness in the way Melania Trump presents herself, then you may be blinded by other factors. She is stunning. I don’t know what makes a person vent/criticize/opine about unrelated issues on a blog that focuses on living a peaceful, lovely life. Sadly, such rhetoric is at epidemic levels. Cindy, you be you. I love what you do and you bring joy to my life. I so appreciate you.
I agree 100% with you. It is so irritating to me that people go online and make judgements about others, and do so basically anonymously. Guarantee they wouldn’t spout off like that face to face. Live and let live. You can take a stand for what you believe in without ever degrading another human being. If something upsets you, scroll on by. No need to comment. Simple!
Quite a few women yesterday were put off at the mention of MT. One said “Style is much more than the clothes a person wears”which is so true. People were offering their honest opinions and it didn’t seem unkind to me. What is unkind are the responses today labeling those commenters as “haters” who need to be “shamed”. You have successfully shamed the women who didn’t agree with you and labeled them as unkind haters. Who is being unkind here? Look in the mirror ladies.
Cindy I agree 1000% with you. Kindness would change our world.
I very recently found your blog, based on your beautiful fashion sense. From that, I also found Kay’s blog and liked that as well. I didn’t read her post as being political at all, but knew that some people are so rabid about that name that they’ve lost a sense of perspective and wouldn’t like it. I’m so impressed and pleased that you’ve tackled this head on rather than asking for changes or making needless apologies. You’ve absolutely gained my respect!
Amen to all the positive comments.
Kindness is needed. I don’t see any judgement when asking if kindness or negativity is better.
I think more tolerance and kindness is definitely needed.
The World and our children are watching.
T
Our children are watching. Is this what we want them to see? I don’t think so.
Cindy, I love your blog because of home, garden, and fashion. Keep up up the great blog you have created. We the readers that enjoy your blog for what it is don’t think about hate. We are the kind people. You will always have kindness and hate in this world.. I hope Kay understands this world we live in now and forgives the hate or troubled people. Keep up up your blog also Kay….
Thank you Cindy for your post today…reminding us to consider our “words”….& yes this should be a safe..entertaining space where we can enjoy…engage…share..& grow..
I love your posts!
Hi Pennie
After today you will not hear me mentioning this again. This is not a forum for political views. I merely interviewed a stylish woman over 50. I am sorry so many of you viewed her comment as being political. Of course I knew it could be controversial. Perhaps I was at naive to think that we as a group are bigger than that. The scars run deep. I am well aware of that. I will never express my political opinions on this blog. That is not my mission or my wish. Sunday back to our five favorites and next week will be filled with fashion. The following week I hope to share a decor post.
Cindy, I applaud you for your reply to the comments to Kay’s interview yesterday. I follow Kay and she seems to be an absolutely lovely person. Very positive and, like you pointed out, she will usually have alternate suggestions for pricey items. She is a lady of great faith but is never judgmental. She, nor you, deserve some of the comments I read.
On another note, little Summer is just adorable! I hope that picture of her is a reminder of the importance of kindness and who may be listening!
Well said Cindy. First Melania is not her husband. We should not criticize people because they are partners with someone we don’t like.
I found Melanie’s fashion style elegant and her beautiful.
I am not American but I have found all First Ladies choice of clothing impressive. They chose what suits them, their age, body type, and personality.
Be kind everyone!
I find it sad that there are still women who insist on bringing negative politics into something about fashion in this “Comment” section. They insist on their own “freedom of speech” but attempt to stifle someone else’s because that person’s beliefs don’t coincide with their own. GET OVER YOURSELF! Your opinion is just that, an opinion, neither better/more important nor worse/less important than the next person so treat them with respect. I was taught “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” and, unfortunately, social media has allowed people to disregard it with anonymity. Keep up the good work, Cindy, and continue to have people represented who may not bring total agreement among your followers. For every vocal “negative” expressed there are at least as many silent “positives”. I know as I have been one….
I’m with you JoAnn…. Be kind, enjoy the content & perhaps leave your political opinions on other forums that deal with that if you’re inclined to do that. Cindy, I applaud you for not changing the content & addressing it appropriately.
Thank you for being so brave and honest. I thoroughly enjoyed the article about Kay’s fashion and inspiration. She could have mentioned any celebrity or political figure that inspires her and I would appreciate her viewpoint. I am so sorry that our divisive political environment seeps into the joy of reading about and celebrating women over fifty. Keep up the amazing work Cindy!
Kindness yes we are all in need of it. However, this is just the beginning of what is to come. If we continue to embrace hate we will all suffer. I fear what the future holds
Dear Cindy… Your message today is inspiring! We need to respect and embrace each other’s differences… That’s how we learn and evolve into better humans.. Thank you for your honesty. Kindness Wins! ❤️
Thank you Anna for being reasonable and understanding.
Ladies, have we forgotten “Pretty is as Pretty does”?
Was the jacket she wore, “I don’t care, do you”, kind, gracious or even fashionable?
As a wife and daughter of retired Servicemen, it bothers me that she walked away from being First Lady with the title, Fashion Icon? How sad.
We are wounded in our country and the wounds continue to bleed.
Our words or the unspoken feelings behind our words do matter. This mattered to those of us who are fighting for the very life of country.
Is this what should be uppermost in our minds?
Sharon
Reading through these comments I observed that many needed to mention Jan.6. and make a point about it. It is their right to do so and they should never be silenced but in the same vein I’m certain there are many that don’t agree with them and yet none retaliated or even made their feelings known. I find this VERY insightful and telling about the differences on each side. Eye opening, really! Let’s be kind and also feel the freedom to be able to say what we want as well. Le’ts also pay close attention to what is happening on both sides and make up our own minds and not be coerced into believing everything we are told. Thank you for allowing us all to speak, it is refreshing even if our emotions get a bit rattled…at least we know we are alive! LOL
Total agreement! Thank you for your beautiful comments.
Cindy, I love your blog! Kindness is definitely what is needed these days & always. It makes me very sad to see how many good people are being censured. Kay is a wonderful woman & so is Melania Trump. Thank you for reminding us to be loving & kind & not hateful.
Well said. It needed to be said. Our country has gotten so thin skinned about everything. We will never have peace again if we’re not able to accept other people’s differences. I personally think Melania was one of our most classy First Ladies. She hit a raw deal because of her husband. The responses are amazing!
Truth Spoken♥️
You ask what has happened to us. The Trump administration is what happened to us.
With actions, policies and rhetoric so extreme how could Americans have a civil discourse? Better just to talk about the weather, fashion , gardens and food!
Mentioning Melania was a set up for controversy. I think your post today was one of the best you’ve written. It really had substance.
Kindness will prevail but it’s often difficult in our adolescent culture.
I respectfully disagree with you completely.
Hi Cat
You have an absolute right to do just that. Thank you so much for sharing.
I agree with everything you wrote.
The Trump years made us divided and hateful, on purpose. So why even bring her up? She is not a fashion icon and has done some very controversial things were also divisive. I can only say to people that think she is ok and harmless to really look into why 70% of the country finds her, her husband and the entire radical Republican movement, and the Fox propaganda channel, absolutely unacceptable. We are on the verge of losing our democracy and that should be talked about.
(I’m afraid I wrote too much and this will be deleted, unfortunately. Bravo, if it isn’t)
I appreciate you encouraging kindness….more important now than ever!
I can honestly say I hardly remember anything Melania wore. I’m sure it was beautiful and very expensive.
What I saw is a woman who was complicit with a husband who was /is the antithesis of kind.
It’s hard to respect that.
Character outweighs fashion every time.
Glad to know this won’t be part of your blog in the future.
I am sorry, thought your interview was excellent and very informative. Your guest presented some great ideas and photos. Kindness wins for me!
Thank you MJ
Well said Cindy! I love your blog and I applaud you for confronting this issue. We should always react with kindness first. People always have the choice to take offense at anything, but to choose not to take offense is the path to freedom!
Hi Terri
I know feelings run deep on this topic. I don’t think we should assume that Kay is supporting Trump because she admires Melania’s style.
Kindness and Grace should be included in everything!! Even politics.
Hi Lucinda
I completely agree
Well said Cindy! I read all of your posts eagerly for tidbits to improve my style, and never comment. This deserves a comment. Perhaps people need to learn to compartmentalization a bit. This blog is not the time or place for political views. The comment was not political, it was a comment on Melania’s STYLE. If someone wants to talk politics, and I’m sure they will in the next18 months, take it to a place where that is the topic! This is not the place for that. Thanks for being strong enough to remind people to take it somewhere else!
Thank you for reiterating it. You will not hear me bringing this up again …ever…
Amen and good for you! I’m about to Google and see some of how she dresses.
Hate is such an ugly thing. Somehow it has been legitimatized by the microphones of politics and celebrity and further sanctioned by the mainstream media and the anonymity of social media. Your willingness and courage to take a stand for civility and kindness was soothing.
Ha!
I applaud you! Brilliantly written. I do not think anyone could have written the issue any better. I am glad that you addressed the comments made by the other person about Mrs. Trump rather than just ignoring them. Too many people sit silence and say nothing! I eagerly wait for each of your blogs to come into my box. There is plenty of politics everywhere else in our social media. I’m pleased that the focus of your blog remains women , our homes , and style.
Keep up the great work that you do!
Thank you Bonita. I have no intention on changing my focus. This is a place to gather and discuss decor, and style in general
Cindy, thank you so much. I appreciate your exceptional content but also your integrity in addressing this. Be kind to yourself today and scroll through the posts on the Chelsea Flower Show. There is even a David Austin exhibit and I thought of you!
All the best.
Hi Didi
Fabulous I will pop over and visit Chelsea!!
What? Politics on Ciundy’s blog? That can’t be so!
I just went back to read the post. Political statements? None that I could find, The mere mention of a former first lady is hardly a political statement. There are far greater issues at hand in today’s rocky world that should evoke outrage and not the fashion sense of someone’s wife.
Filters ladies. It’s all about the filters. Just because you think it, doesn’t mean it needs to be said
Enjoy Cindy’s beautiful blog and her delightful gift of sharing home, fashion, and beauty. And yes Cindy, kindness matters.
Holly I have a “girl crush” on you!! Ha ha I. hope that doesn’t become misconstrued as well.Your comments are always valued.
Your original comments said it all to me. We all come from different backgrounds snd have different experiences. Some of my dearest friends have different beliefs than mine. I love and respect them, no matter. My father was a “registered” Democrat and my mother a “registered” Republican. I grew up with some interesting conversations over the years. Sometimes, they were heated. But, I knew my parents loved each other and were completely devoted to each other the 50 plus years they were married. I try very hard to remember that we are all entitled to our opinions, but I choose not to browbeat my friends who disagree with me. Yes, kindness and human compassion is everything.
Hi Sally
I grew up in a family like yours. Differing political opinions were respected and discussed. Thank you for sharing.
You go! Couldn’t agree more. Haters gonna hate. The hate speaks more to their issues! You keep this open dialogue going. We need more people willing to say stop. We’ve had enough hate and ugliness.
Thank you Julie. I think of little “Summer” and my daughter. Whenever Summer tells her mom that someone said something “mean” to her. My daughter responds with BE KIND. Words to live by in my opinion.
Cindy, I’m so glad you are pushing back on the nasty comments made yesterday. When I read them I thought “ouch”! I was a bit surprised that you didn’t censor them. It was brave of you to let the comments stand and now we can all have a frank discussion about what happened.
My first reaction to the choice of Melania was to try to remember what she wore. She seemed to want to stay in the background and focus on being a mother rather than take part in politics. Except there was that one jacket…..
This country has become so divided and it’s sad. Can anything heal the situation? Kindness and RESPECT are more important than politics. Thank you for using your soap box to talk about this, my friend.
Thanks pal for your thoughtful comment. I try not to moderate my comments. You have probably noticed that. I missed a nasty one a while back directed at another Ageless Style “guest”. I didn’t catch it until the next day and her feelings were already hurt. It was from someone who had never commented before. There are some people who go from blog to blog to stir up trouble. That is not what happened yesterday.
Hi Cindy,
I did read your column yesterday and suggested you interview more women of color. My reason for this was to gain a different perspective on style and color.
I have been following Kay YouTube channel for a while now and knew she was very religious. I was watching her channel for fashion and only focus on her fashion styling advice.
Her stating she admirers MT fashion is no concern to me since I’m not a six feet tall skinny white women. What people are reacting to is January 6th. We can’t ever forget what happen that day just like we can ever forget Pearl Harbor.
Kay said what she said she answered the question you asked truthfully. Opinions are like A$$holes everyone has one.
You stated you were thinking of asking her to remove her answer that was very telling. It suggested to me you knew what kind of response her answer was going to generate. As someone who reads your blog and the comments test blog has more comments than many of your other blogs.
Mission accomplished!
Hi Willette
I am trying my best! I do have someone fabulous in the wings. I hope we did not scare her off! If you have any suggestions please share them. I have asked many. I also love doing couples. This is an equal opportunity blog believe me.
I didn’t read the comments on yesterday’s post. I’m surprised some of your followers reacted in such a way. I was raised with “If You Can’t Say Something Nice, Say Nothing At All”. It’s sad that Americans are so divided over their political leanings.
I read blogs for the fashion, decor, gardening & beauty, not for religion or politics. I enjoy your posts because neither comes up.
Yes to Kindness!
Hi Joanna
Amen…
I agree 100% with everything you said! I never read the comments so I was unaware that anything unkind had been said. It is so easy for people to hide behind a screen. We are so much better than this.
Hi Cathy
We certainly are
Cindy, when I read your interview with Kay Harms, believe it or not when she said, her fashion icon was Melania Trump, I immediately wondered if there would be repercussions from that. She even said it was not politically motivated. She just admired her sense of style which I do also. I cannot believe the hate that some people have for political reasons. I admire Kay for being honest in her opinion of Melania trumps style. It has nothing to do with politics. I’m glad you posted her interview and I’m certainly glad you did post it. Thank you I love your blog.
Thank you Carol for reading. As I said this is a community of women that I respect and admire. Yesterday just disappointed me a bit.
Yes, I can see why you were disappointed. Your blog is my favorite and will continue to be my favorite.
Cindy—I love your blog, and I can relate to most of what you have expressed in this post. I can see you put a lot of thought into it, and for that I thank you. Kindness and respect above all, I also believe.
However, when I saw MT’s name yesterday, I felt sadness that she was being highlighted in your post. I did not write a comment as I do respect others opinions.
My vision of MT yesterday was that of a woman wearing a jacket with the words—I really don’t care , do you—or something to this effect—when she visited the Texas area where children were separated from their mothers.
Was that kind or even necessary for a First Lady? Is she someone to be held on a pedestal, even if it is just about style, specially one that is based on spending thousands of dollars/outfit?
I don’t have all the answers, but at 79, having lived until my teenage years in a country that has had dictators (on the right and on the left) for almost one hundred years, I am very sad of the world I will leave behind for my son and grandchildren.
Very here to
It’s very sad you can’t see one persons comment about someone’s style without seeing something political in it. A sad world with politics ahead of kindness.
It is our job to work on that
Hi Elsa
That t-shirt incident was very unfortunate. Even if she didn’t think it through. I can’t imagine another first lady wearing a t-shirt with those words regardless of their party affiliation. It was in bad taste period.
Dear Elisa,
You brought up in your comment the very first thing I thought of when the name “Melania Trump” was mentioned in yesterday’s blog – that “I don’t care” jacket she wore on the trip to a migrant children’s camp. It was 80 degrees that day (I actually fact checked this), it was a $39 Zara jacket which I’d go out on a limb to say that’s a brand she doesn’t wear, so why in the world wear something so tone deaf and controversial? All politics aside, why would you want to emulate someone that thinks that type of fashion statement is OK??
I won’t comment on that one…I have my own thoughts…that was in extremely poor taste. What on earth was she thinking?
Apparently she was thinking that she wanted to communicate that “I don’t care” message about the children separated from their parents. I cannot think of another interpretation.
How sad to hear this. Love and kindness are so important. Plus being respectful of others. Shame on those negative ones. We can learn so much from each other. Thanks
So true!
Hi Rebecca
Thank you for speaking your mind.
Wow! Keep the shaming going against those who expressed their opinions. And keep shaming anyone who doesn’t agree with your guests. Look back at the comments to see how many times people have now been called “haters” because they expressed an opinion simply to make the point that style is more than the clothes a person wears. This is so sad.
Thank you Cindy for responding with an open dialogue. I agree with you 100%.
People should be able to express their opinion without being attacked. Simply saying you like someone’s style doesn’t warrant such an attack. I think the haters should be a shamed of themselves.
I grew up as you too mentioned with sitting around the dinner table and discussing politics. We all didn’t agree with each other, but we allowed and respected the other persons opinion. And then went right on enjoying dinner and each others company.
How else do we learn if we don’t broaden ourselves by listening to other points of view. This is what I see as the problem. Some people feel they can attack people into submission into not expressing their opinions.
I stand by the quote: I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.
I’m a proud first generation Greek American. My parents taught me to speak up and express my opinion, because I was born in America. A free country. They knew first hand how dangerous suppression of speech is to the people. That’s why they fled their home land and came to this great country. They were the most patriotic people I have ever met that loved this country that gave them freedom and opportunity.
Maria
Hi Maria
Very well said
Well said, Maria! We must all start realizing the future generation depends on our faith in God to know what is true and what are lies…let’s enjoy our freedom to voice our opinions while we still can. It is good to hear opposing views and pray for wisdom. I would hate to see a child of today grow up saying, “I have no freedom because my grandparents did not want to offend anyone, so they remained silent.”
Your posts are wonderful — please don’t change a thing you do. There is NO REASON for comments to be made about political hatred. If you post something about someone that is a problem for me, I may or may not read it and move on — it’s not necessary or kind to attempt to degrade or defame the person in the post. Melania Trump has style and even though she may have stylist that help her, it’s the style she chooses. It doesn’t matter how much money she has to buy her clothes, I find takeaways from expensive styles that I can immulate. I look at houses and interiors well above my means and do the same thing. Thank you for the post on Melania Trump. I am on your blog to learn.
Awesome comment!
Hi Linda
The post was not about Melania but about style, and yes we can all learn from others.
It’s really sad how much anger is out there. That’s why our blogs are supposed to be a pleasant respite from it. Thank you for all the beauty you bring to this space.
That is why so many people love your blog Mary Ann. They love what you share.
I see and accept others beliefs or religions, always have.
The only word that comes to mind is “hurt”. The harm that some things or people do to others..that I will support to the end all people being harmed by someones expressions or behavior. Love and kindness are more important, yes! If your paying money to support hate then that is not in my book of acceptance..I draw that line.
Hi Lori
I try to as well but I understand with these trying times it is difficult
HOLY COW! Brava, Cindy!… Look at all the very positive responses to your post. I love this and I love that so many of us know that we need to support each other and lift each other up!
Politics are such a mess right now – we need to rise higher!
Onward, Ladies!
Hi Dianne
We are all women who can learn from each other. We do not have to agree on every single detail.
I applaud you for your position. It’s hard to hold on to civility in this age. I too had a butterfly thought about Melanie but quickly checked myself. Thank you for telling your truth.
Hi Lee
I suspected it could be an issue, but I did not think it was worthy of censor. She merely stated she liked her style.
When did we become so obsessed with being Right? Right in our own opinions and unable to have a discussion. As we all become the only voice that matters there is no ability to connect to new possibilities. Look at all the opportunities we miss out on by having to be ‘right’.
We, as women can change the narrative by not being so one sided and encouraging others to look at all sides of a story and speak with facts and not just emotions.
Hi Joyce
Thank you for sharing “your voice”
Cindy, I’m so glad you wrote this. Kindness IS more important and we really need to see more of it these days! In my opinion, I think it’s wonderful to be able to appreciate someone’s style without bringing in politics. For instance, there are so many interior designers as well as fashion designers that I love. With most of them, I have no idea how they lean politically…and I don’t care! It would be exhausting to try to keep up with that. Let’s just appreciate beauty where we see it! Enjoy your weekend!
Shelley
Cindy,
I’m happy to read your word’s, I100% agree with you. A similar situation happened some ago with another local blogger and her reaction was quite different than your’s. When her political view wasn’t honored she basically told her reader’s to get lost. I was shocked. All the hate is getting very tiring. Keep doing what you do. It’s very obvious that you are a kind and gentle person, and I look forward to reading what you and your friend’s have to say.
Hi Cindy: you have a lovely blog. I look for kindness and support for all unfortunate people in the politicians I support, and their wives.
Although Melania Trump is a very beautiful woman and could dress spectacularly, she expressed some of her feelings when she wore the jacket with the logo on the back in 2018:
“I don’t care, do u” to visit a children’s shelter which included children separated from their parents. Jill Biden’s outfit
worn for the coronation: spectacular. It again is not how one looks but how one treats people that very much matters
on a day to day basis, locally and at the highest level. Politics divides us but if we look deeply into who helps the most people the most that indicates kindness.
Thanks for your great blog and gorgeous photos, fashion sense, and decorating ability.
This. That jacket was a “true color” moment for Mrs. Trump. And it wasn’t a one-off; there were additional ”true color” moments during her tenure.
Cindy – I was so sad reading the comments. This was not about politics. We still have free speech in this country, which protects speech that someone may not like. Yes – kindness is more important than politics – most things in life are more important than politics. A person is more who they vote for – look at their life and what they have done. These women don’t know Kay at all.
I have admired Melania Trump’s style choices before too. Does that mean that I am a crazed right wing nut? No. I am able to separate politics from other ideas and opinions.
Your politics doesn’t define you. That’s why I never discuss publicly – because sadly in this day and age – 50% of the people I meet would not be able to get past that and would immediately judge me. I am proud of you for leaving the mention in the text and standing for freedom of expression and diversity of viewpoint. Keep on carrying on….
I think it is so sad we cannot express our appreciation for fashion & beauty for their own sake. Thank you Cindy for today’s post, & your intentionality in not just passing over the dissent., but challenging us to our better character. Brava!
Hi Lori
I try my best. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. It is impossible to please everyone all of the time. I just try to be fair minded and stay out of politics.
Cindy:
I agree with everything you stated. I guess I am of the odd one/(s) as I was reading the post, and saw Melania Trump, she mentioned First thoughts, Oh yesssssss, Love Love her style, as ( Jackie O another one of my fav)., politics never ever played into this.
We all need Kindness always.
Thank you
Hi Karen
It shouldn’t should it? We were talking style…
Since this blog is an open forum, people should be able to express their opinions, once solicited. We can be kind, but we do not have to agree. The negative comments about MT and her style belong just as much as the positive — that’s the point of discourse, and I find it enlightening. I think we should also acknowledge the role of social media in 2023. Somehow, we have come to feel we must respond to and express our opinion on everything we read or hear or see. I personally found the religious comments offensive — and as a Navy veteran, I dislike all the flag waving that shows up this time of year — but both of these issues mean I simply choose to stop reading.
Hi Bette
Well said. I hope we didn’t lose you with this discourse. I value your comments.
You are spot on. Melania’s gorgeous style has nothing to do with politics – nor do the beautiful & unique styles of
Michelle Obama, Hillary Clinton, & Laura Bush. I would hope we would all be mature enough to know the difference as anything else smacks of intolerance.
You are absolutely right Marilyn
Cindy, I never read the comments. I agree with everything you said today. I love Melania Trump’s style and Michelle Obama’s. It’s sad how narrow minded people have become. My motto is It’s better to be kind than right. Thank you for your attitude.
Hi Linda Jo
I certainly appreciate your tolerance and understanding.
AMEN!
Cindy,
I hate to say this but politics and political affiliation are absolutely more important than kindness to some people and honestly I don’t believe that they see it as being unkind. They are commenting and speaking their truth through the lens of their lives.
That was evidenced by the comments on yesterdays post. Sadly, it is the way of the world today.
We are living in what seems like Sodom and Gomorrah, there is so much evil in this world and people are just downright nasty, combative and close minded at times. THIS COMMENT IS NOT DIRECTED AT ANYONE HERE, it is my observation of the world.
Civil conversations have gone out the window, civil discourse is a thing of the past. I hate to be a pessimist but social media has magnified every problem in this country and spreads misinformation daily. People take everything literally as the truth. Families are divided, friends have fallen out and not just over politics but every issue under the sun.
THIS IS MY OPINION, I wish it were different.
I would think and hope that as women of a certain age that we have seen and heard it all, that we could be civil or kind to one another.
YOU are allowed to have an opinion, I am allowed an opinion. Your views, thoughts and opinions are not better than mine or less important than mine. Whatever they are, they maybe different, the same, or overlap. That is what makes us individuals and free thinkers.
Ladies, we are mothers, friends, aunts, grandparents, adults and so much more. We teach and preach to our children to be kind, I wonder why we do not extend the same courtesy to others?
I feel bad for Kay and anyone else that speaks their truth because they will be vilified and that is the sad fact.
Thank you for addressing this Cindy and to be honest, I think in the future if you invite a person to come to your blog it may be best to censor or monitor the comments. No one deserves to put themselves out there for hatred and ridicule. Would you like someone to do that to you? Your child or grandchild?
Have a great day ladies.
And yet, several commenters today are still making negative comments about Melania Trump! I guess they missed the point of your blog. And for heaven’s sake, what does January 6th have to do with fashion? I am in my 70’s and many wives of elected officials, whose husbands I voted for, had style I didn’t care for. Conversely, many of them, whose politics I disagreed with, had fabulous style. What is so difficult about separating the two? Why are people so intolerant?
I thought the exact same thing!! The need to put down anything Trump supercedes any kindness, I have been personally attacked over the years for just a mention of the name, not even as a supporter. It just triggers people and they cannot hold their thoughts. Never experienced anything like it before in my 77 yrs.
Very true Dianne
I felt the same way and it was all I could do to scroll on by without responding in as negative a fashion. We crave to be kind and loving. There is so much hate and anger today. I am sad for our world. Your post today was spot on. Thank you, I always love what you show and say.
We have to be, but I do crave goodness…maybe a true auto correct.
Thank you Gayle.
Hi Shari
Exactly. We were talking about style, not politics.
Hi Elizabeth
Everything you said is spot on. Yes I guess when I have a guest I will filter the comments from here on out. They are after all our guests. They have agreed to share their style honestly. They do not deserve to be judged or villified.
It is never kind to mean and it is never mean to be kind – something to remember.
❤️
well said jan
Thankyou for your commentary, Cindy. It was refreshing and honest. I, too, am so sick and tired of the political divide in this country. After the last few elections we have friends who we cannot speak of anything politics with, or who have become “non friends” because they can’t handle any difference of opinion whatsoever. I find it ironic that some bloggers (mostly women) insist on constantly barraging us with their opinion, but have a fit whenever anyone presents a different opinion. I’m stopped watching any sort of “news” whatsoever because I can’t stand the sensationalism on either side. It’s not even news any more but simply propaganda in most cases. I’ve stopped following bloggers (some are your pals) because they feel the need to inject their political point of view into almost everything, which I find annoying, even if I did agree with their stances. We look to fashion, home decor and other blogging topics as a respite from the crazy world.
The last thing I want to do is to be inundated once again by politics! Thank you, Cindy. I enjoy your posts very much. Please keep up the good work and do NOT let a handful of naysayers make you change what you are doing. Good for you.
Hi Kimberlee
I am sure I will lose some subscribers, but I will not become political here. I doubt anyone knows my political affiliation and if they think they do, they are probably wrong. I receive dm’s on IG from extremists on both sides. That tells me they both think I am on “their” team.
Well said Cindy ! I’m very happy to read this post !
“ The way to get along in this world, is to not expect others to be like you”
Thankfully I missed the negative comments yesterday. I avoid pollitical & religion topics as possible. Hate to assume, but I assume mostly women on this blog – we should be supporting each other, as sisters! We are in this together & all the hate & change in politics is taking us backwards in time. We have to be supportive of each other or all the things our ancestors fought for will be taken back. Wake up people! We are sisters in the human race!
thank you susan
You are absolutely right! Kindness is key! I didn’t support the Obamas, but I don’t have a problem if someone likes Michelle’s style. Everyone is entitled to his or her opinions.
Hi Lisa
Exactly…
Kindness is definitely more important than politics. I have a perfectly wonderful sister who has political views diametrically opposed to mine, so we stay away from the topic and continue to love and support each other and our family. It’s the same with a special group of women friends I’ve known for 20 years.
None of us can escape the stresses of life, so I enjoy my early morning posts from people like you when I can focus on my home and fashion and maybe get a new recipe.
Please keep doing what you are doing for those of us who are still optimistic about our country and the world we will leave to our grandchildren.
Hi Susan
Hopefully, this is the last time we will have to address this here. I am wondering if my next guest is gay, black, or hispanic, will that be a problem as well? We should just listen to ourselves and the example we are setting for our children and grandchildren. Of course it is appropriate to comment in a kind way. I always welcome comments of every kind. I have no problem with you all picking on me. It happens quite often.
Cindy, it is not right for people to pick on you. Again, the women that follow this blog are intelligent, accomplished women, for the most part over 50. At that age we should realize that if you cannot say anything nice do not say anything at all.
Kindness is always more important, and so is respect. And tolerance, but that seems to have disappeared a long time ago. Along with good manners and a lot of things we were taught were important. Sad..
Sad but true Doris
Reading through some of the comments from today, I see that people are still missing your point! Everyone has a point to prove 🙂 I just found your blog as I am over 60. I rarely read the comments but today’s post made me want to scroll down.
AMEN! I thought the very same.
Hi Anne
Welcome! I hope we did not scare you off. You will not be hearing any more political commentary from me. That is not why I am here and I believe most everyone else feels the same way.
Great post. There are many things about Ms. Trump that I find baffling, but clearly she has great style. It seems to me that most people should be able to understand that no one is all good or not. Surely we can focus on the positive and would all be better off for it.
Ha…well said…
Cindy – This is so well written. You addressed the responses in a loving way towards all.
Thanks dear friend
I missed the comments yesterday thankfully!
This is a really wonderful post!! Kindness matters more than politics 100 percent!! It’s so sad what is happening in this country with all the divisive rhetoric all day everyday.
I have friends of all different parties and I can have adult rational conversations with them and I just don’t understand why it can’t be this way with everyone. It’s very sad!
I hope your featured guest wasn’t offended and it doesn’t scare off any other future guests! I love your blog!
Thank you Christine. I surely hope not
Kindness should alway be first. If practiced by more of us what a different world this would be. I had recently subscribed to Kay Harms blog. I admit that reading her style icon was Melania Trump gave me pause, for a nano-second. However, I have to admit that Melania does have style and one can appreciate that fact without approving/disapproving of what we think we know of her as a person. I have lived all of my 71 years in a politically divided family and often lived in areas of the country where my beliefs are in the minority. The only way I have found to navigate these differences and build and maintain relationships is with kindness. The opposite is what has gotten us into the mess we are in today. I recently read somewhere that before you speak or write something, see if it meets the THINK test. T is for “is it true”, H is for “is it helpful, I is for “is it inspiring”, N is for “is it necessary”, and K “is for “is it KIND”. Enough said!!
Winnie I will remember your words…thank you for that…
I have many friends who disagree politically yet we do respectfully treat one another. Kindness is not dead. Keep your beautiful posts positive and don’t let this one ruin any future posts. The 3 or 4 who popped up to express themselves may have needed to vent because no one else is listening to them. As I sit on a military base this beautiful morning I am reminded of all the freedoms we have in this country because of the many men and women who bravely work to defend them. Have a wonderful Memorial Day weekend!
Thank you and/or your loved one for your service to our country! God bless you.
Hi Linda
Thank you for reminding us what is really important
Cindy,
Thank you for this post. I did read yesterdays post and while I raised an eyebrow for a split second with the Melania Trump reference because I do not agree with those politics, my next thought was “dang, good for her for not being afraid to share.”. We have let a small group of people in this country make the rest of us scared to share our true thought and feeling because they are so focused on the political differences between us. I raise a glass to both you and Kay, I love your blog and her style is fabulous. Let this community that you have built lead with kindness and show those divisive few that they cannot scare us into not caring for each other anymore.
Oh my Sarah your words speak volumes
I thoroughly enjoy all your posts. I agree that Melanie has style and is beautiful. Your guest should be able to express that freely. I didn’t hear her say she was a supporter of anyone. She was writing about fashion. I wasn’t offended by any of the people she mentioned and their leanings are diverse.
I don’t agree with the viewpoints of a lot of people, but I can still listen to them and not write them off. One of my dear friends and I disagree about many issues.
I am a truth seeker and have prayed for years for our country for all truths to be brought in the light. All means no favoritism.
Hi Debbie
Well said…
An opinion regarding the fashion style of a woman who also happened to be the first lady shouldn’t be considered political. It’s fashion, not politics! I love both Melania’s and Michelle’s style, both beautiful in different ways, Love your blog, so sorry you got negative feedback for something so innocuous.
I agree with you Mary. I consider both women stylish in their own way.
I agree with everything you said in your post today, Cindy. I did not read the post that you referred to, and I am not a Trump supporter, but this is supposed to be a free country. I have actually stopped reading another blogger’s posts because the comments were always so judgmental, and I have always admired, not only your wonderful personal style and personality
that shines through, but the comments of your readers seemed much more positive and upbeat.
Hi Janet
I love my readers. I have so much respect for you all. I understand it is a sensitive issue with the Trumps. She wasn’t condoning Trump she merely said his wife has great style.
I wish that people, especially women, would recognize every other woman for their intellect, experience and grace. NOT who they’re married to. Isn’t that what women’s liberation was all about? Your post today is very well stated. Thank you for requesting civility of your readers.
Thank you for addressing this. One of my favorite thoughts/comments is “We can agree to disagree.” My world would be very restricted if I only associated with people, read articles, or listened to broadcasts that aligned with my opinion/viewpoint. We do not need to agree; simply disagree respectfully.
Jane
I would love to bottle many of these comments, yours being one of them. If a comment gets me riled up, I try to digest it or sleep on it before responding. I am almost always kinder after “sleeping on it”
Kindness does matter, but Jan 6 has divided our Country! I feel that Melania Trump supports that day and I chose not to finish reading your post yesterday! Any woman who loves her style is NOT one I wish to follow! Thanks for taking the courage to react to the public comments.
Bravo! What an excellent post.
When I saw the reference to Melanie Trump I too was taken aback. I’ll admit I had a rush to judgement, but did not comment. Colleen above is right, January 6th. We simply cannot admire anyone in the circle of those who tried to turn over our democracy. I love your blog Cindy, and I am sorry the response was negative.
I love your blog and the content you post. I agree that we can and should always be civil and promote Kindness. Melania is a beautiful woman and her style is classic. Her husband is a lightning rod with people falling on either side of the wake he creates. Emotions run high and maybe it’s asking too much to think that people will follow the adage taught by our mothers,,,If you don’t have something nice to say…. I look at the question and the answer and find nothing to argue with. Emulating Melania’s current fashion style is certainly not controversial. However, your guest certainly knew that her response would be. So, human nature prevailed and we move on.
It is a shame but a lot of people turn kindness into a political thing. It has to fit their definition. These are the times we’re living in now.
Thanks for posting this. Kindness is always most important. A quote I love is “Always Be Kinder Than You Feel”.
Don’t change anything. Kindness is what we need most in today’s world. Press on
Hello Cindy,
I love your blog and follow it always. I did read the post yesterday and appreciated getting to know Kay a little better, and because l am out of the country seeing family l did not have time to post a comment And l agree about your comments on kindness; however l did blanch at Melania Trump being mentioned as a style icon; not necessarily because of her politics and who she lives with,, but l think it’s a little bit of a “cop out” to praise style when the individual mentioned can afford anything she likes, and uses stylists. I also think the stakes are very high as to how America is perceived internationally and how the country wants to govern itself in the future. Is kindness being shown to others in our community…..beyond the niceties of personal style. Thank you Cindy for all you do xo
I agree with your comments, Melania is not someone to emulate. How she came to this country and the person she chose to spend her life with is not honorable, all the money in the world does not make her a ‘lady’. I do believe in kindness and goodwill toward man,but some people are simply not worth it! I’m sure there are other style bloggers who are non-political and certainly worth an interview,like Ann on Sutton Place, Yvonne at Stone Gable and KeriAnn at Thistlewood Farms.
Oh my goodness Cindy. Of course there are. If you go back and read my interviews from the past four years you will see a highly diversified group of women. That is my goal.
Love you, Cindy!! You are a true model and blogger for us all! I was glad to read the opinions of so many different women! It was interesting and really enlightening for us, but I’m happy that you will continue to concentrate on home and fashion and kindness! Thank you for your continuing inspirations!!
Hello Cindy P
Thank you so much
Hi Cindy,
I have one political view and many of my close friends have another. We do not discuss politics. In fact, I prefer not to watch TV when there is a heated debate about who is the better politician. Kindness and compassion is 100% more important to me than who we vote for to represent our country. I’m so sorry your visiting guest had to read some of the bitter comments. But I look for kindness and compassion in the politicians I support with my vote. I’m glad you wrote this post. It sounds like some need a reminder of what the site is about.
Karen B.
Thinking the best of others is so important. Thank you for the gracious way you worded today’s post and for standing for civility. You would probably appreciate BraverAngels.org which is a group dedicated to bringing back civility, turn off the polarizing news talking heads and get to know someone who doesn’t believe exactly like you. Learn to hear their heart and thoughts and respect them as another wonderful human. We have more in common than not. Blessings on your efforts!
Please, please, please do NOT change anything about your blog, who you interview, and what you post! I enjoy reading and seeing what you post. ….. And! …. I agree with you! …. This nation needs to be kind again!
We can all connect through kindness. There is a great need for it in this divided world.
When I read yesterday’s post and saw the reference to Melania Trump I simply decided not to click through and learn more about your featured style maven. What has happened you ask in todays post? January 6th. It is a matter of the survival of our country and our freedom. People are responding to fear. We are not talking about being kind and polite vs. politics. It is the distinction between kindness and unkindness. I haven’t read the comments in question but an open forum is an open forum so you take the good with the bad.
Agree. 100%. Melanie has nothing to do with “style” or kindness.
Hi Missi
I am speaking of kindness to our guest.
Hi Missi
We aren’t addressing whether or not Melania is kind. We are speaking of being kind to our guest and allowing her to admire someone for their style. She did not say she agreed with her politics.
I agree with this. Not every viewpoint, not every action is legitimate and justified. Argument to moderation (Latin: argumentum ad temperantiam)—also known as false compromise, argument from middle ground, and the golden mean fallacy —is the fallacy that the truth is supposedly always a compromise between two opposing positions. An example would be to regard two opposed arguments, with one person (correctly) saying that the sky is blue and another saying that the sky is in fact yellow, and incorrectly conclude that the sky is the intermediate color of green.
Here, the fallacy would suggest that kindness lies somewhere between the e.g. Trump administration and the Biden administration approaches and politics. It does not. The Trump administration and family have actively sought to destroy our democracy (including supporting the January 6th attempted coup), whereas – regardless of what a person’s politics are – the Biden administration has not.
There are not “good people on both sides.”
Hi Sally
Thank you for your comment. I do believe there are good people on both sides of the political spectrum. They are in a minority. I will agree with that.
I agree that there are good people along the political spectrum. I disagree that they are in a minority.
People who espouse homophobia, racism, misogyny, antisemitism, and other forms of hate are not good people and have no place in political discourse. The Trump administration was powered by hate and to refer to their views as “political” is erroneous. We can disagree about zoning laws or funding for public services as political differences, but the homophobia, racism, misogyny, antisemitism, and other forms of hate that Trump and his family espoused, not to mention the lies they spread about the 2020 election and the attempt to overturn the results of a legitimate election? None of that was “political.” It was an effort to take down our democracy. There were no “good people” on that side.
Just as an experiment suppose you read your comment and instead of Trump you put Biden’s name in its place. Now think about those reading this that are for Trump and how righteous you sound to them. Pretty harsh, very judgemental and not a bit NICE which is why people are at odds and the very reason for this post in the first place! Sorry you missed the point.
Kindness is very very important–especially in today’s very stressful political environment. At the same time, I can understand people making comments (I did not see them). We are in uncharted political territory and the stakes are unbelievable high for our citizens. I don’t believe in censoring content either, but mentioned the wife of an extremely controversial figure was bound to draw a response.
Kindness is very very important–especially in today’s very stressful political environment. At the same time, I can understand people making comments (I did not see them). We are in uncharted political territory and the stakes are unbelievable high for our citizens. I don’t believe in censoring content either, but mentioned the wife of an extremely controversial figure was bound to draw a response. Should read mentioning not mentioned